Friend circle is not unfamiliar to everyone, and we all use it often. Through the friend circle, we can understand a person’s life situation and can also like and comment on the messages posted by others.
Many men like to post photos of themselves with their wives in the friend circle, such as photos of traveling together, playing with children, and some related insights when being together with their wives.
They hope to showcase their happy lives, receive blessings from friends, and also tell the world that they are doing well.
However, if we observe carefully, there are also some husbands in life who never show their wives in the friend circle.
So, why do some men not show their wives in the friend circle? Let experienced individuals tell you six reasons.
01
Mr. Zhang, 37 years old, software development engineer – “Love in the heart, no need to flaunt”
“To be honest, it’s not that I don’t post, it’s just that sometimes I feel, why do we need to show off our love? We are all grown-ups, married, and showing off all the time feels strange.
I think, peace and simplicity are true. Just like the old saying, ‘a dog’s kennel is better than a golden palace,’ happiness, well, is felt by oneself.”
Mr. Zhang’s thoughts actually reflect a reserved attitude towards emotional expression that many people have. In their view, true happiness does not need external validation to strengthen it; internal satisfaction and peace are the most precious.
02
Mr. Zhao, 30 years old, hotel manager – “Shadow of the ex, caution is wise”
“In my friend circle, there are still a few exes lying around, although we don’t contact much, but it’s still a bit awkward when occasionally seeing each other’s updates.
So, I’m quite hesitant about posting photos of my wife. After all, one small oversight may result in unnecessary misunderstandings, even causing unnecessary troubles for my wife. I think it’s better to be low-key, after all, feelings are personal, there’s no need for everyone to comment on them.”
Mr. Zhao’s concern reveals a delicate relationship on social media – the presence of exes. In such an era of transparent information, balancing the past and the present indeed requires some wisdom.
03
Mr. Xiao Li, 31 years old, trendy shop owner – “Excessive flaunting of love, more dreams in the night”
“I used to love showing off too, but later I found that deliberately showcasing love is like recording sleep-talking; over time, it’s more likely to cause problems.
Do you know? Sometimes the more you show off, the more others tend to scrutinize you with a magnifying glass, even minor conflicts can be blown out of proportion. So now, I prefer to keep this sweetness in my heart, savoring it slowly.”
Xiao Li’s experience reminds us that excessive display may backfire. On social media, maintaining authenticity and individuality is far more precious than deliberately creating a perfect image.
04
Mr. Chen, 46 years old, CEO of a listed company – “Unspoken understanding in busyness, no need for many words”
“My wife is a lawyer, and we have a pair of twins in elementary school. We are both busy as can be. As for whether to post photos in the friend circle, to be honest, we haven’t really thought about it.
What we care about more is coming home every day to have a meal together, chat, that’s enough. Happiness, isn’t it, accumulates from these simple and plain days?”
Mr. Chen’s attitude demonstrates a maturity and tranquility. In the busy pace of life, they have found their own tacit understanding and happiness, without needing external recognition or validation.
05
Mr. Wu, 34 years old, producer – “Few gatherings, protect privacy”
“In our line of work, the nature of work is special, often traveling with projects, few gatherings. But we have a great relationship, just don’t want to show off our love in the friend circle, afraid of others critiquing our relationship status.
After all, everyone’s life is not easy, we’d rather keep this hard-earned happiness for each other, rather than becoming gossip fodder for others.”
Mr. Wu’s choice reflects a protective nature towards relationships. Working in the spotlight, they understand the value of personal space and aim to prevent external voices from disturbing their world.
06
Mr. Qian, 40 years old, doctor – “Serene in a second marriage, reluctant to be disturbed”
“My wife and I are in our second marriage, having gone through a failed marriage before, we cherish our current quiet life even more. Not posting lovey-dovey photos in the friend circle mainly aims to keep this hard-earned happiness away from the disturbances of the outside world. We enjoy our little world together, not wanting to be bothered by excessive attention and discussions.”
Mr. Qian’s thoughts convey a sense of calm and firmness after experiencing life’s hardships. They deeply understand that true happiness lies in inner peace and contentment, not in the noise and commotion of the external world.
07
Through the sharing of these experienced individuals, we can see that the reasons men do not show their wives in the friend circle are diverse, but ultimately stem from a desire to protect relationships, understand life, and interpret happiness uniquely.
In this noisy world, perhaps we should learn to respect everyone’s choices, understand the stories and emotions behind them. After all, happiness is not a view in someone else’s eyes, but a feeling in one’s own heart.
Therefore, in the minds of most men, the perfect marital status is peaceful coexistence. Once the relationship is established, they believe that it doesn’t need to be continuously updated, considering it successfully accomplished.
However, it must be said here that even if a woman is married, she still hopes for a continuous update in the state of the relationship, as the relationship process is linear for women.
So, it is necessary for men to occasionally cater to their wives’ desire to show happiness, as the ability to love also requires constant reaffirmation and updates, proving the existence of love in a reasonable way to oneself and the partner.
Of course, whether one flaunts the friend circle or not is not the key; what’s important is that your love can make the other person perceive and affirm it, both sides having confidence in this love.
Finally, may you be loved and also know how to love.
