Men are a group with strong self-esteem, always showing strength, independence, and confidence. However, in relationships, certain behaviors can seriously hurt men’s self-esteem, potentially causing emotional fluctuations and self-doubt.
We often say that men are natural visual animals, having no resistance to beautiful women. However, for men, admiring beautiful women is a pleasure, while having a beautiful woman can sometimes be torment.
If a man has excellent personal conditions, having a beautiful woman by his side is like adding icing on the cake. But if a man is not satisfied in various aspects, a beautiful woman can actually be a sweet burden, easily leading to a blow to his dignity.
A netizen from Zhejiang became gloomy because of his girlfriend’s high appearance.
The man and his girlfriend were in a long-distance relationship that turned into a reality, and when they met, they were shocked by each other’s appearance.
The man and his girlfriend met online, and the love across the screen sometimes simple sweet words can deeply move each other. For some love addicts, even without meeting each other in person and not fully understanding each other, just a voice message can make them ecstatic and deeply immersed.
Initially, the woman was deeply attracted by the man’s maturity and steadiness, envisioning the man as a hero who would come to marry her on a colorful cloud. And for the man, the girlfriend’s gentleness, cuteness, and understanding nature also moved him greatly; he enjoyed being admired and adored.
After dating for a while, the couple could no longer bear the agony of long-distance love and decided to bring each other closer, choosing to end the long-distance relationship.
They thought that overcoming the obstacles of distance to be together, the harvest would be sweet after the bitterness. However, on the first day of meeting, the man’s emotions completely collapsed, with his deep-seated sense of inferiority intensified by the arrival of his girlfriend.
The girlfriend’s beauty made the man feel inferior, and the thought of the outcome made him deeply sad.
Being average-looking, the man had always found it difficult to get married in real life, which is why he turned to online dating. He thought meeting a girl he liked was a kind of happiness because she didn’t mind his appearance, but after seeing how beautiful his girlfriend was, he couldn’t feel happy.
Not only was the girl’s beauty captivating, but she did not mind her boyfriend’s lackluster appearance at all. Perhaps she was enchanted by his maturity, so after meeting, she was delighted rather than disappointed by the difference in looks between them, happily taking selfies together.
While it should have been a good thing that the girl didn’t mind his appearance, the man felt extremely uncomfortable, especially seeing his dark skin and imperfect features in the mirror, which made his happiness vanish.
Although the girlfriend was affectionate towards him at the moment, the man realized very clearly that he was undeserving of such a beautiful girl. All infatuation driven by hormones has its expiration date, and once that period is over, the girlfriend would surely grow tired of him. Therefore, this relationship was ultimately destined to fail.
The more the girl showed her affection, the sadder the man felt. But out of his self-respect, he didn’t know how to express his feelings or face the future. On their first meeting, he was completely flustered, plunged into endless confusion.
Emotional Analysis:
Seeing the boyfriend being gloomy all the time, the girl thought she wasn’t doing well enough, trying various ways to make him happy, but the man couldn’t even muster a smile.
Regarding the couple’s interaction, some people claimed they weren’t superficial individuals but seeing such a huge contrast between them, they were skeptical about the relationship’s future.
Observing the man’s unwilling expression, some speculated that he was heavily burdened by life, hence appearing so exhausted.
Furthermore, some people indicated that the reason why the girl was so joyous was that she was glad a decent guy finally approached her, while the man looked downcast because he didn’t want to engage in the relationship.
Relationships are like water to a person, one knows best about their own sensitivities. Although we often say that relationships start with looks and are loyal to character, the difference in appearance between two individuals does not significantly affect the outcome of a relationship as long as they have similar values, love each other, age, height, and appearance are not issues.
However, for couples who have a significant difference in appearance, only they can truly understand the feelings during their relationship.
Many times, the frustration from online relationships doesn’t stem from the long-distance aspect, but rather when they finally meet in person.
Many times, the frustration from online relationships doesn’t stem from the long-distance aspect, but rather when they finally meet in person. Since the online stage doesn’t involve real interaction with the other person, there can be deviations between expectations and the reality of the individual, causing disappointment upon meeting.
For the man, being able to have such a beautiful girlfriend surely made him happy but considering his actual situation, he knew he couldn’t handle it. Wanting to possess but having to let go due to unwillingness and attachment, he was deeply saddened.
Today’s discussion topic: Do you believe in a happy ending for this relationship?
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