A good saying goes: quarreling is never too late, but apology is always considered too late.
Some say that quarreling is a touchstone and can reveal a man’s true feelings towards you.
Indeed, after a quarrel, the attitude a man holds towards you determines the depth of his love for you.
Therefore, if after a quarrel, a man exhibits the following four behaviors, he is a stable and good man.
01
After a quarrel, he will not give you the silent treatment.
“Silence is golden, but in love, it can be a double-edged sword.” Many couples choose the silent treatment as a way to escape after a quarrel, thinking that time can dilute everything.
However, the reality is often the opposite; the silent treatment only deepens misunderstandings and widens emotional rifts. Good men understand this well; they know that effective communication is the bridge to problem-solving.
After a petty argument between Xiao Li and Xiao Zhang, Xiao Li angrily slammed the door and left, leaving Xiao Zhang alone at home in tears.
For the following days, neither of them reached out to the other, and a tense atmosphere loomed in the house. Eventually, the silent treatment ended with Xiao Zhang’s concession, but it created a barrier between them.
“In love, the warmest power is not anger but understanding and tolerance.”
Truly good men will break the stalemate after a quarrel. Even if they are still upset, they will find an appropriate time to use gentle words or a hug to say, “Let’s talk about it.”
They know that the silent treatment does not solve problems; only through honest communication can relationships become stronger.
02
After a quarrel, he will use humor to defuse conflicts.
“Humor is life’s seasoning and the lubricant of emotions.” In the midst of arguments, a well-placed joke can instantly diffuse tension, allowing both parties to smile at each other again.
Three months into their marriage, Mr. Wang and Ms. Zhao had a heated argument over uneven household chores. Both were extremely emotional, and Mr. Wang, in his heat, said hurtful things.
Unfortunately, this argument not only solved no issues but also made their relationship plummet, almost leading to divorce.
Mark Twain once said, “A sense of humor is a display of intelligence and a preservative of love.”
Good men know when to use humor appropriately. For instance, when the atmosphere eases slightly, he might say something like, “It looks like our ‘home chores battle’ will go down in history. But on a serious note, maybe my ‘battle power’ needs some improvement?”
Such self-deprecation showcases his generosity and makes the other person unable to resist laughing, naturally dispersing the conflict.
03
After a quarrel, he will control his emotions.
“Emotions are a devil and an angel; it depends on how you control them.” Emotions often spiral out of control during an argument, but good men know how to hit the brakes in time and not let negativity dictate their actions.
During a heated argument due to a misunderstanding, Mr. Liu impulsively pushed Ms. Li. Although the force was not strong, the push cut deep into Ms. Li’s heart like a sharp knife.
Napoleon once said, “He who can control his emotions is greater than a general who captures a city.”
Facing disputes, good men take deep breaths to calm themselves down. They realize that the purpose of an argument is to resolve issues, not to hurt the other person.
Therefore, even if they are enraged, good men make an effort to control their emotions and express their opinions in a calm manner, avoiding any behavior that could hurt you.
04
He will communicate with you to solve problems, not escape and leave you alone at home.
“Communication is the bridge of the mind; solving problems requires mutual efforts.” Good men understand that avoidance is not the solution. Only by bravely facing the issues can they find the root cause and work together to solve them.
Due to a disagreement over future plans, Mr. Chen walked out in anger, leaving Ms. Sun alone at home in tears.
After the argument, Mr. Chen chose to avoid the situation, thinking that leaving would calm both sides down. However, he didn’t realize that such behavior would only make Ms. Sun feel more isolated.
There is a saying: “True love is not about never arguing but being able to be together even after a fight.”
When things calm down after a quarrel, good men will actively invite their partners to sit down and calmly discuss the issues. They listen to each other’s thoughts, express their own opinions, and work together to find solutions.
Even if the problem is not immediately resolved, they will patiently communicate with their partners and will never leave the other person alone outside, disregarding them.
05
What women truly want in love is not to never argue but to be able to stay together after an argument. Just like in the song “我怀念的” by Sun Yanzi: I long for the impulse to love you after an argument. However, reality often contradicts our wishes.
Although arguments and conflicts are inevitable in love, a man’s attitude towards you often determines the extent of his care for you.
A man who loves you will constantly pay attention to you, while a man who doesn’t love you will only care about his own interests.
So when a man cannot provide you with a sense of security, then he definitely does not love you.
In conclusion, the behavior of a good man after a quarrel reflects their maturity and love. They do not choose the silent treatment, avoidance, or harm but instead use humor, understanding, and communication to resolve conflicts.
If you meet someone like this, cherish them because they are a treasure in your life that is rare to find.
