There is a saying online: Giving up on someone is not just something you say.
If you truly want to let go of a person, it requires us to be from the inside out—no contact, no care, no value.
Only by achieving these points can we really let go of someone; otherwise, it will only make ourselves suffer more.
If you want to genuinely let go of someone who doesn’t love you, try to do the following three things.
No contact
Some people, no matter how much you love them, when you gradually stop contacting them, they fade from your world.
Back when I was in school, I really liked a boy; I always thought he was great, did well in his studies, was polite to others, spoke with culture, and was quite handsome.
I always felt he was the best person and the most deserving of my love; I truly loved him at that time, believing we could be together for a lifetime.
But after we got together, I realized it wasn’t like that—he was not just good to me, he was good to everyone.
Perhaps he didn’t really love me; the life together wasn’t as beautiful and happy as I had imagined.
Later, I wanted to give up, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it; I kept thinking that if I just tried a little harder, things would change. But slowly, I realized that no matter how hard you try, it doesn’t matter if the person doesn’t love you.
Having decided to give up, I started to gradually cut off contact.
Even if the other person contacted me, I wouldn’t take the initiative to reach out; after a long time, he seemed to fade out of my world.
Eventually, I didn’t even think of him anymore.
It turned out that to give up on someone, gradually not contacting them truly makes them unimportant.
No care
I don’t know if you’ve ever felt this way: the more you care about someone, the harder it is to let go.
The more you care, the more you give, and the harder it is to part with them.
But love isn’t about how much you care; it doesn’t mean the other person will love you more.
Many times, you’ll find that love is something we can’t control.
Those who love you, even if you care less, will still love you, while those who don’t love you will not care no matter how much attention you give.
Especially when facing a man who doesn’t love you, caring won’t change anything.
Just like my relationship with a classmate, at the beginning, I cared a lot, fearing that I might do something wrong, making him unhappy, or not love me.
So I tried to pursue perfection in everything, always thinking that if I did well, he would love me greatly.
But reality is not like that.
The more I cared, the less he valued it.
No matter how hard I tried or what I gave, he always remained polite, showing no signs of being moved.
Later, I realized that some people can’t be loved just because you care.
When I decided to give up, I made efforts to not care, to be myself, doing whatever I wanted without considering his feelings.
What I liked to eat or do didn’t matter to his thoughts.
When I truly took this step, I suddenly realized that loving myself felt really good, and not caring about someone felt incredibly comfortable.
Especially toward someone who doesn’t love you.
When you want to give up on someone, learn to not care about them; no matter what you do, don’t care about their feelings, don’t value their feelings.
Slowly, you will realize that the other person no longer matters, and they will gradually disappear from your world.
No emphasis
There is a saying: The more you emphasize, the easier it is to lose.
Yes! Sometimes, the more we emphasize a person, the more we are likely to lose them.
Because emphasizing makes us cautious and always looking back.
Gradually, we lose ourselves, and this version of ourselves is not liked by us, nor will it be liked by the other party.
Especially when facing someone who doesn’t love you; the more you emphasize, the less they like you.
In such a relationship, we only suffer more.
When someone doesn’t love you, learn to not emphasize and let go of that love.
Because for someone who doesn’t love you, nothing you do will matter, and besides pain, it won’t give you any good feelings.
So learn to not place emphasis!
Don’t emphasize the other person’s preferences, don’t emphasize their thoughts, don’t emphasize anything about them.
Whenever we only emphasize ourselves and not those who don’t love us, we’ll slowly discover that the other person is not important anymore.
At any time, we must understand that for someone who doesn’t love you, nothing you do will matter.
When facing someone who doesn’t love you, learn to let go!
Effortlessly making yourself not contact, not care, and not emphasize, the other person will gradually fade from your world, ultimately stirring up no waves in your heart.
