Why does he always remain silent?
In many relationships and marriages, many women encounter a problem where every time they want to communicate, the man remains silent. Whenever they ask the man what he thinks, he just stays silent.
Refusing to communicate, refusing to express inner thoughts, refusing to respond to women.
As a result, the more women ask, the more silent men become; the more silent men are, the crazier women feel.
This continues in a loop, never properly resolving the issues.
Silence seems like an effective strategy, seemingly able to avoid some conflicts.
However, in reality, it is quite harmful and even frightening.
It will lead to more and more conflicts.
I have seen a couple who, after getting married, started off reasonably well, but whenever a problem arose, the woman would express herself while the man would completely ignore her.
After the woman finished expressing herself and cooled down, they would continue as if nothing had happened.
When the man behaves this way all the time, the woman becomes especially angry and starts to feel ridiculous, as if she is causing trouble for no reason, as if her anger and concern are just a joke.
They coexisted in this manner; at first, the woman tried to resolve things on her own, but as the man kept doing this, she could no longer manage to digest her emotions, and gradually, she became very reactive.
Later, every time the man acted this way, she started to recall past situations, remembering every time the man responded with silence, recalling the man’s indifference as if he simply didn’t care.
As a result, she could no longer manage her emotions, and the problems between them increased, often without one issue resolved before another one arose, with all the problems lying heavily between them.
In a relationship, there are always people who say women like to bring up old grievances; in fact, it’s not that women like it, but rather that too many issues were not addressed in a timely manner in the past, and even later, they remained unaddressed, piling up in their hearts.
As time goes by, the problems naturally accumulate, and old grievances multiply.
This will gradually worsen the relationship.
When men are always silent and indifferent, it may not mean they don’t care, but from a woman’s perspective, it feels like they don’t care about her.
She believes that if he cared, he wouldn’t leave her hanging and would work to resolve the issues.
In fact, women can easily feel that a man’s silence means he doesn’t love her, leading her to question the relationship, wondering if she misjudged or made the wrong choice in the beginning.
After such thoughts arise, when a woman repeatedly asks the man to express himself and he remains silent, she becomes increasingly frustrated, and her heart begins to grow cold.
Carrying negative emotions, she no longer wishes to treat the man well or to properly manage the relationship.
After that, the couple’s feelings for each other will gradually dissipate, becoming increasingly distant. Their interactions will lose the warmth and affection they once had, and a sense of estrangement will begin to develop.
Each silence and every disappointment will further weaken their feelings, while dissatisfaction will grow.
This situation is not what women desire, nor is it what men want; they start with joy and end up filled with resentment, which is truly unfortunate.
It will be very painful, even leading to loss.
No relationship is without problems.
Consider this: when two people never try to resolve their issues, but instead attempt to avoid them through silence, thinking things will just pass, in reality, these problems will not just disappear.
Continuing together with unresolved problems means old issues will frequently resurface, never forgotten. It can be said that such love and such marriage are destined to be very painful, hard to endure, and tormenting, and no one wants that.
One either endures such days with little feeling of happiness, feeling only pain, or they truly want to end this way of life, as it is unbearable to keep enduring.
