When a woman falls for someone, she always wants to get closer.
She wants to know what he is busy with every day, wants to understand what is on his mind, so she starts calling or messaging him.
But the more she tries, the more indifferent he becomes. He doesn’t reply to your messages, doesn’t answer your calls. What’s going on with him?
It’s only then that she realizes, loving someone takes time, especially before knowing his feelings, you need to progress gradually and adapt slowly.
To conquer a man, you don’t need to message him or call him, but rather use “hot and cold” tactics!
1. Deal with men calmly, don’t let love cloud your judgment
In a relationship, what’s essential is staying calm. Some women, once in love, tend to let love cloud their judgment thinking love is enough, only to end up hurt.
To achieve perfect love, one must learn to think calmly and sensibly, act when necessary, and be patient when needed. Only by doing so can one find true happiness.
Take for instance, the character Hao Wuyi from “I Only Like You,” she is portrayed as a powerful woman, with a rational approach.
From her student days, she had a crush on Zhao Guanchao, knowing he didn’t like girls like her. Their interactions were part of a bet, not out of genuine interest.
Thus, she made an agreement with Zhao Guanchao: to remain best friends without any romantic involvement, and she wouldn’t settle for anything less.
Even after graduation, when they met again, Hao Wuyi didn’t demand responsibility from him, nor did she anticipate any romantic feelings between them.
Her composed demeanor puzzled Zhao Guanchao, making him question her true feelings and why she kept her distance.
Subsequently, Zhao Guanchao started to confess his feelings, pursuing her actively. Instead of waiting for Hao Wuyi’s actions, he decided to seize the opportunity and make her stay.
When facing love, women should avoid impulsive decisions and instead keep a clear mind. When you remain emotionally composed, making it difficult for him to read your intentions, he will take the lead.
2. Handle emotions with warmth, show him your sincerity
People often say not to be overly passionate in relationships or else the partner might take you for granted.
However, this advice refers to not being excessively warm towards someone who isn’t reciprocating, rather than suggesting emotional detachment. If you act distant, he might assume no interest in progressing the relationship, causing him to retreat.
During a relationship, you shouldn’t always act cold; it might lead the other person to misinterpret your intentions, making them step back.
If at that time, you show warmth in your approach to emotions, demonstrating your sincerity, he will undoubtedly understand your thoughts and not wish to betray that genuine affection.
Although not favoring the character Qiuzi from “You Are Beautiful than the Stars,” her approach towards relationships is commendable.
She liked Shao Yichen, tried to get closer to him, made advances, showed enough warmth, hoping her love would melt him and move him.
If she had never taken the initiative or expressed her feelings, hoping for him to move on from his past, they might have missed an opportunity.
There saying goes, “When a woman chases a man, a layer of gauze separates them,” Qiuzi’s actions undoubtedly gave Shao Yichen a good opportunity, especially in his vulnerable post-breakup state, paving the way for conquering him.
To conquer a man, you need some skills and strategies.
Handle emotions with a clear mind, don’t let love cloud your judgment; respond to emotions warmly, let him feel your sincerity.
Once you strike a balance between composure and warmth, trust that you can grip his heart firmly, make him infatuated with you, melt his heart with love, and make him willing to get closer to you.
