Hello teacher:
I have been dating a boyfriend, but I don’t know if he really loves me. I feel that the relationship between us is not particularly good. Perhaps, it is because my requirements and understanding of emotions are different. To others, we may seem happy, but I just can’t feel that happiness. I do have some high expectations for relationships, but it’s not without reason. On the one hand, I have good conditions myself, and on the other hand, I know how to provide the value the other person wants. So, based on this premise, I think it’s normal to have higher expectations.
I have read some opinions and then evaluated my emotional state. I feel completely confused. Because these opinions are contradictory. Now, I don’t know how to judge anymore.
My boyfriend and I have been together for over half a year. His daily work is not very busy, and we have plenty of time together. So, I just want to know, what would it really be like when a man truly loves you? From a woman’s perspective, how should one judge? Please analyze this for me, thank you.
A butterfly yearning for happiness
A butterfly yearning for happiness:
Whether a man loves you or not, you can actually feel it yourself. In real life, many women tend to overthink. When dealing with emotions, they tend to overthink. For example, a man’s action that was originally trivial and common. But some women insist on finding meaning in it. This sensitivity is excessive. If this is the case, then it’s troublesome. For women, we first need to check if we have this kind of state. If not, perhaps the issue lies with your emotions rather than you. To know if a man loves you, you don’t need to guess or probe; these three points are enough.
First: Is the overall interaction relaxed and pleasant? If being with a man feels awkward, if you don’t feel any happiness, if you feel like strangers to each other, then there is an issue in the relationship. If you are sure you are not the problem, then it’s likely the man doesn’t love you. Because not loving you would create such feelings. Women need to reflect on this objectively. If you are overly sensitive and interpret things subjectively, then you cannot judge this way. Women need to be clear that understanding relationship states require objectivity for accuracy.
Second: How does the man handle relationship conflicts? From a certain standpoint, a man’s attitude towards relationship conflicts reflects his love and intensity. If a man doesn’t love you, he might ignore conflicts. This is a good way to judge the relationship status. If a man loves you, he will try to resolve conflicts. This is an expression of love. If you find he doesn’t love you, don’t fantasize. You cannot awaken a man who doesn’t love you. With such circumstances, it’s best to let go and take care of yourself.
Third: How does a man handle significant problems? There’s a saying that true colors show in times of trouble. When faced with major issues, a man’s attitude can reveal a lot. If a man ignores you during such times, then maybe it’s time to stop trying. His actions speak volumes. At this point, you need to protect yourself and move on. When a man doesn’t love you, a woman must learn to love herself.
The above is a general analysis, I hope it’s helpful to you.
