In middle age, our lives gradually enter a steady state.
We have new roles and new challenges in both our workplace and family.
Regardless of whether they are men or women, everyone encounters various problems.
Some of these problems are frustrating, while others are headache-inducing, but no matter what, life must go on.
What do men fear most in middle age? They fear a serious lover, fear a wife who is too earnest, and fear
Fear of a serious lover
When young, men pursue women, and when women accept them, the two begin a marriage.
However, after reaching middle age, men grow weary of married life and the mundane routine with their wives.
At this point, a lover emerges. The lover is young, but she is wholeheartedly devoted to her own husband.
Moreover, she is very clever and knows how to use sweet talk to entice her husband.
She may even employ some tricks to make her husband willingly spend money on her.
These actions greatly annoy men, and they are also quite afraid that the lover will take things seriously.
Because the lover is too young, and she is a very calculating woman. So men have to be wary of her.
At the same time, the lover treats him very well. This makes men very worried that she might be a mistress. To avoid being discovered, men can only make their lovers serious.
Fear of a serious wife
It is said that marriage is like a walled city: those outside want to enter, while those inside want to leave.
In a family, regardless of gender, there will always be one person who feels uncomfortable, who may even cause trouble.
What men fear most is a wife who is too serious, especially when a woman is serious in front of the children.
Children are a mirror of their parents.
If mothers frequently complain in front of their children that their fathers do not love or care for them enough,
then the children will mimic their mothers’ behavior and feel that their fathers do not love their mothers enough either.
Over time, the father will seem increasingly indifferent to the children, even causing them to dislike him.
Therefore, if women want to educate their children well, they need to set a good example.
This way, children will come to respect their fathers from the bottom of their hearts and learn to appreciate and reciprocate their father’s love.
Fear of a wife leaving
In middle age, a woman often has too many attachments to her family, children, and husband.
Some women may think that their children are still young and that things will be fine once the children go to college or grow up a bit more. But in middle age, which woman is not the apple of her parents’ eye?
Once a man has an extramarital affair, he will feel that his family has lost its former warmth. Especially when he sees other men with women better than his own, he will care more about his wife’s contributions and love for the family.
If his wife were to leave him, what would he do?
Thus, men in middle age fear the most is their wives leaving. But the fact proves: as long as they want to reconcile, they can still find their wives.
So how can a man ensure that his wife does not leave? It depends on whether he can truly return to the family.
Fear of arguments between lover and wife
Some couples, when they argue, it can feel endless. As they argue, their feelings for each other may fade away.
Moreover, the sounds of these arguments can echo through every corner of the house, becoming quite bothersome.
Especially for men, it is even more so.
When a man is with his lover, the woman will not argue with him.
So when a lover starts arguing with him, men fear hearing the lover say: “I’m already married to you, what are you still arguing about?”
At this point, men fear embarrassing themselves in front of their lovers.
Therefore, when faced with issues or unpleasant situations outside, do not keep it bottled up inside.
