If a fifteen-year-old sister always likes to hit her younger sister, you can solve this problem from the following aspects:
1. Understand the reasons
Communicate with the sister
Find a quiet time, talk to the sister alone in a calm and understanding manner, and ask her why she hits her younger sister. Possible reasons include:
Feeling that the younger sister is too mischievous, disrupting her own study or life.
Having pressure at school or elsewhere, venting emotions on the younger sister.
Lacking proper emotional management and communication skills.
Observe the interaction between the sisters
Observe the interaction between the two sisters in daily life, and see if there are specific scenarios or behaviors that easily cause conflicts. For example, whether the younger sister often snatches the sister’s belongings, or whether the sister is particularly irritable at certain times.
2. Solutions
Educate the sister
Emotional management: Teach the sister that hitting someone is not the right behavior and help her learn how to control her emotions. Recommend some emotional management methods, such as deep breathing, counting to ten, temporarily leaving the conflict scene, etc.
Communication skills: Encourage the sister to express her feelings and needs in words, rather than through violence. For example, when the younger sister does something that upsets her, she can say “I don’t like it when you do this, because…” instead of directly using physical force.
Fostering a sense of responsibility: Remind the sister of her responsibility as an elder sister to take care of and protect the younger sister, rather than harm her. Give the sister some small tasks to care for the younger sister, so she can experience the satisfaction of taking care of others.
Monitor the younger sister’s behavior
Teach the younger sister to respect the elder sister: Tell the younger sister to respect the elder sister’s personal space and belongings, and not to cause trouble arbitrarily. If the younger sister does something wrong, correct her behavior promptly.
Strengthen the younger sister’s self-protection awareness: Tell the younger sister that if the elder sister hits her, she should run away promptly and tell the parents, instead of fighting back or crying.
Parental intervention
Serious attitude: Parents should take a serious attitude towards the sister hitting the younger sister, clearly informing the sister that this behavior is not allowed and will have consequences.
Fair treatment: When conflicts occur, parents should handle the issue fairly, without favoring either side. After understanding what happened, analyze and educate both parties about their behavior.
Enhance the sisterly bond: Organize some family activities for the two sisters to participate in together, to strengthen their relationship. For example, watch movies together, do crafts, outdoor activities, etc.
Seek professional help
If the sister’s behavior of hitting the younger sister continues to be serious, or if the problem cannot be resolved within the family, consider seeking help from a professional psychologist. The psychologist can help them resolve conflicts and build a good relationship through individual conversations with the sisters and family counseling.
