Children grow up and become less proficient in communication, less proactive in life, and speak less with their parents, which makes many parents very sad. In fact, parents don’t need to be too anxious, as children will always want some space for themselves as they grow up, and both their physical and mental states change. So, as parents, how should one deal with this issue?
First, cultivate a positive family atmosphere. As children grow up, they long for independence and autonomy, but in reality, they also need support, experience setbacks, face academic pressures, and prepare for adulthood. During this period, when children face difficulties, parents should support and help them, create a positive family environment, and maintain regular contact and care for their children.
Moreover, respect your child. Parents should be more tolerant, understanding, and respectful towards children who are not keen on communicating. Even though parents are still authority figures during this phase, they should educate children with a gentle yet firm attitude. Discuss certain behaviors in advance with children, set boundaries, such as mom knocking on the door before entering your room and getting your permission, but you cannot lock the door.
Furthermore, pay attention to your child’s emotions. Before communicating with your child, if you notice that they are not in the right mood, refrain from disturbing them and wait until they are emotionally stable to talk. Sometimes, when children refuse to communicate, it’s not that they don’t want to talk to their parents, but their inner turmoil is causing them pain, so parents need to remain patient.
Lastly, improve your communication skills with your child. If your child is not keen on communication, parents can take the first step, but to receive responses from the child, communication skills need to be enhanced. Learn to ask questions, listen attentively, show empathy, and reflect their emotions. Parents should also practice using non-verbal communication more, such as patting their shoulder, having physical contact with the child, or showing concern through eye contact. Express your own feelings and avoid blame and judgment.
In conclusion, to establish a good communication relationship with your child, it’s not about control or discipline, but about equal mindset and identity exchanges. A good parent-child relationship will boost the child’s growth and development. Regularly pay attention to your child’s emotions, improve communication with your child, and help them gradually open up.
