In “Intimacy,” there is a sentence:
“Falling in love with someone is not about what you can get, but finally having some things, having the qualifications to do it.”
Just like, when a man falls in love with you, he will take the initiative to give you something, without expecting anything in return, just simply wanting to give to you.
And then there are some men who only say they love you but never take action, let alone want to do anything for you, which means he never had you in his heart.
Facts prove that if a man does not give you the following “things,” it means he does not love you, and you should cut losses in time!
1. Cannot give you money
There is a saying:
“A man willing to spend money on you does not necessarily mean he truly loves you, but if he is unwilling to spend on you, then he really doesn’t love you.”
Some may say women should not be too materialistic, but this cannot be used as an excuse for why a man does not spend money on you. The only reason he is unwilling to spend on you is simply that he does not love you enough.
Friend A once complained that her boyfriend had never spent a penny on her. In his view, they were just dating, so financial matters should be clearly defined to avoid future troubles.
From this, A also feels that he is too petty and not showing true love. She does not want him to spend his money but wants his attitude, which he fails to deliver.
In reality, a man who truly loves you will consider you and be willing to give you the best, even if you ask for nothing, he will be willing to spend on you.
Only someone who does not love you will be concerned about the money spent, even fear that you are after his money, which results in never sincerely giving.
2. Cannot give you loyalty
If someone truly loves you, they will reject other opposite genders for you, which also means rejecting all ambiguous relationships. Do not argue that men cannot do it; it’s about how deep their love for you is.
The most basic aspect of a relationship is loyalty. If he cannot even give you loyalty, how can there be a future, and how can you trust his sincerity?
Xu Huanshan from “Nothing But Thirty” is a prime example; he claims to love Gu Jia, but behind her back, he spends money on other women. What is that about!
When confronted, he starts to argue that it’s because you are too aggressive, too domineering, not caring enough about me, I was just confused for a moment, it’s not all my fault.
Gu Jia, for the sake of the child, the family, and the tiny bit of remaining love, does not want to give up Xu Huanshan, but after repeated arguments, she becomes disheartened and does not want to continue with him.
If someone cannot even give you loyalty, how can there be a future? Even if the relationship continues like this, it is likely that one day, these things will lead to arguments.
3. Cannot give you a future
For a woman, security is most important. If the other party is unwilling to give you a commitment, it’s better to let go.
Many men say, “Without a career, how can one start a family,” but those who say this are often selfish, only focused on their own thoughts, never caring about others’ feelings.
Xiao Zong from “You Are My Destiny” is very selfish; he claims to love Li Li but never wants to change for her, just wants her to comply with his ideas.
Especially when Li Li finds out he has a daughter, she does not hesitate but firmly stands by his side, wanting to take care of this child together, but his reaction leaves her completely disheartened.
He just wants companionship, never thought of giving her a future, and will even question why she thinks that way, truly disappointing, also proving that his love is not as imagined.
Throughout life, all one seeks is to meet someone sincere.
When dating, one must not rush but see the sincerity of the other person, understand their character before making decisions, rather than impulsively rushing.
During the relationship, do not easily trust their words, observe their actions more. If they never did anything for you, it’s better not to trust them anymore.
Whether he truly loves you depends on whether he will give you money, loyalty, and a future. If he is unwilling to give you anything, then leave early, do not waste time on him; it’s not worth it!
