People’s hearts are like the sea, it’s hard to see the waves within.
And in relationships, what women most want to know is whether the man they love is truly worth relying on and if he loves them as much as they do.
Life is like a play, at times some men are like born actors, even if they are cold and indifferent inside, they will still appear to be profoundly affectionate on the surface, highly deceptive.
Women who are blinded by love often find it hard to see the true nature of their partners, only realizing the deceit when the truth comes to light, understanding that the so-called affection and kindness were all just deceptions.
In reality, with careful observation, even the best disguises will show cracks.
Men like this only pretend to be affectionate, in truth, they are heartless. Women must keep their eyes wide open.
01: Saying “I love you” but not showing it through actions
Every woman loves to hear sweet words; people often say women are capricious and unpredictable. In truth, women love to be flattered. Sometimes, actual effort is not needed, just a few sweet words can easily sway women. Sweet words may be pleasing to the ear, but if actions don’t match the words, caution is required. Love ultimately needs to be reflected in actions. No matter how articulate someone is, genuine love requires tangible actions. If when it rains, he never shows up with an umbrella, or when you’re in trouble, he never offers help, or when you’re sick, he doesn’t even bring you hot water, then despite his sweet words, his love is not as deep as he claims. When all his expressions of love stay just words, it shows he never truly cared. Stay away from such people, don’t let their words deceive you, nobody can live a lifetime on just words.
02: Always brushing you off
In love, assessing sincerity lies in how much one cares about you. Love is like a tug of war, whoever loves more, naturally cares more. If a man truly loves you, he will remember the things you say, and work hard to keep his promises. However, if he constantly brushes off your concerns, can’t keep promises, and struggles to fulfill your requests, then he doesn’t love you at all. If someone truly loves, they naturally pay attention to every move you make, take care of your emotions and needs. If a man always brushes you off, don’t deceive yourself with excuses that he’s just forgetful, he doesn’t care about your feelings but instead will only leave you hurt. Stop asking if he loves you; his dismissiveness already provides the answer.
03: Constantly demanding you to change
In a healthy relationship, both partners evolve towards better versions of themselves over time through mutual understanding and growth. If one constantly tries to manipulate you into changing, claiming moral high ground, it’s a red flag. No matter how sweet words sound, a partner’s controlling nature isn’t out of love, but a display of destructive control. Love should be a mutual journey, where both willingly choose to change for a brighter future. If your partner always demands changes, it’s not love. If he prioritizes your transformation, you need to distance yourself immediately, as he doesn’t truly love you.
04: Conclusion
Genuine love always manifests in concrete actions, regardless of circumstances. Judge a person not by words but by deeds. Do not be deceived by false appearances; those who truly love you will continuously show their love through practical actions.
