There is a saying: “If life were only as it was at first sight.”
This means that as time goes by in relationships, the initial beautiful fantasies become increasingly blurred amidst daily interactions, making it seem better if one had never met or known the other.
Between people, it’s easy to fall in love, but it’s difficult to coexist. Eventually, as time passes, the original love will be depleted.
Love comes quickly and goes just as fast; how can one recognize it before the heart changes?
A man often says these three phrases before he changes his heart; don’t misunderstand.
01.
“Whatever you think”
A man without a sense of responsibility will often say “Whatever you think” to avoid addressing issues in the relationship.
In reality, when a man says this to a woman, signs of his changing heart are already quite evident.
He has defined you in his mind as a woman who overthinks and is sensitive and suspicious, never considering your perspective or reflecting on what he might have done wrong.
Such a man disregards your sense of security, adopts a cold demeanor in difficult situations, provides no explanations, and offers no communication, letting things be.
One or two instances might be forgivable, but over time, it indeed becomes disheartening.
This kind of man doesn’t understand you and isn’t willing to try to understand you.
He doesn’t grasp your anxiety and vulnerability, nor your unease and worry; the man who says this to you appears to be “pure and self-clear,” but in reality, he hasn’t put you in his heart at all.
And all of this is because he no longer loves you as he once did; he has changed his heart.
02.
“Don’t bother me”
Women are creatures of overflowing maternal love; once they fall in love, they tend to treat men like children.
“What did you eat today?”
“Are you feeling better from your cold?”
“Don’t stay up too late, and try to smoke less.”
“It’s cold; wear more clothes, and don’t forget your umbrella if it rains.”
Such reminders and concerns may initially touch a man’s heart.
But as time goes on, these concerns become what he perceives as “control.”
Your care no longer moves him; instead, it annoys him; your reminders no longer warm his heart; they become interruptions.
Your solicitude interrupts his life; your thoughtfulness affects his freedom.
Indeed, you are concerned for him, and you exert yourself for him, yet it ends up being an unnecessary disturbance.
It’s not that you are at fault; it’s simply because he has changed his heart and thus no longer needs your care.
03.
“I’m busy”
Sergio Bachioff once said:
“Love must be cherished; with the passage of time, cherish it even more. Love is not about idling under the bright moon, nor is it about sighing on a long bench.”
What is love?
There was a saying I saw on social media: the person who wants to take you home will find any route; the person who loves you will always have time for you, 24/7.
If a man truly loves you, even if he is busy, he will still make time for you, whether it’s a word of concern during his break or an explanation before he dives into tasks.
If he is always telling you he is busy, then he surely has time for others, and this is precisely the beginning of his changed heart.
Those who care about you will always have time; those who don’t will never have any time.
Those who value you feel a minute away from you is too long; those who don’t care think even half a second spent with you is a waste.
A man who loves you will not suddenly stop replying to your messages nor will he frequently neglect you.
