Zhang Ailing said:
“If a person has no time, it’s because they don’t want to have time;
If a person makes too many excuses to you, it’s because they don’t want to care about you.”
Love is beautiful, but it has an expiration date; once it expires, you can’t go back to the past.
Just like when a man no longer loves you, he will have no time for you and make many excuses, this attitude is clearly discernible.
You feel sad, you feel desperate, all because you can no longer feel his love, and he doesn’t want to understand your feelings.
If a man is unwilling to share three things with you, it means he doesn’t have you in his heart!
1. Unwilling to share time with you
If someone truly likes you, they will make time for you even when busy, even just for ten minutes, to chat with you, as this is what satisfies them.
However, when they are always too busy, unwilling to spend time with you, it means they don’t have you in their heart and don’t want to continue the relationship with you.
My best friend’s ex-boyfriend was like this, always claiming to be busy whenever she wanted to chat with him, promising to chat later but later never comes.
Every time they planned to meet, he would say, “Didn’t we just meet? I have things to do, let’s talk in a few days!”
After a few times of this, my best friend could no longer bear it, she asked if he still loved her, and he just blandly replied, suggesting they should break up.
At that moment, my best friend finally realized that he no longer loved her, otherwise, why wouldn’t he share time anymore, why make various excuses?
2. Unwilling to share money with you
Tu Lei once said:
“If a man cares a lot about money but is unwilling to share it with you, willing to share time with you instead, it doesn’t prove he loves you; conversely, if he cares a lot about money but is willing to share it with you, it’s true love.”
A man who genuinely loves you won’t quarrel over money and will spend on you as long as both are happy and content; he will be willing to spend on you.
But some men won’t think this way, always worried that you are after their money and not them, even stingy, such people simply don’t love you.
When you see he is unwilling to share money with you, it clarifies his true intentions; attitude outweighs everything, such overly calculative individuals will lead to many future conflicts.
3. Unwilling to share secrets with you
If a man is unwilling to share secrets with you, even unwilling to talk to you at all, it somewhat indicates he doesn’t consider you close enough and treats you as an outsider.
In a relationship, if basic honesty is lacking, how can there be a future, he may even feel you are not giving him space, making him feel suffocated.
A sister once shared her story, whenever she noticed her boyfriend feeling low, she would habitually ask, “What’s wrong?”
But he never took it seriously, impatiently replying, “Mind your own business,” and at times, bluntly saying, “You’re really annoying.” These words hurt deeply, and eventually, the sister stopped asking; she understood that if he wanted to share, he would, and if not, there was no use in forcing it.
Simply put, he doesn’t value you enough right now, not willing to share his thoughts with you, nor be honest about his feelings; she felt heartbroken but didn’t know what to do.
In a relationship, if you realize he doesn’t love you as much as you thought, don’t persist in it any longer.
Don’t expect him to come back and love you; if this is his attitude now, it won’t change later, so let go and give yourself that peace.
Remember, no obstacle is insurmountable; when you part ways with the wrong person, you pave the path to meet the right one and start a new life!
