In marriage, the thing that women care most about is whether men love them or not.
For this reason, they will try their best to manage the relationship and strive to become the precious one in the man’s heart.
However, marriage life is filled with mundanity and triviality. In the day-to-day companionship, many people no longer express their love, becoming numb and lazy, neglecting their partner’s needs.
Women feel that men have changed and no longer love them.
Indeed, feelings can deteriorate, but a home is the love nest of two people, and both should protect it. They should have eyes to appreciate beauty, and understand the difference between marriage and romance.
After marriage, the more a man loves you, the more he will do the following:
1. Recognize your efforts.
Women often feel oppressed in marriage when they handle household chores and childcare without receiving any recognition. Mothers-in-law may think their daughters-in-law are taking advantage of their sons, and husbands may belittle the effort required in child-rearing. Other women envy the daughter-in-law, thinking she enjoys a carefree life just by staying at home with the child.
Only women understand the true nature of their daily lives. If husbands fail to recognize their efforts, the wives feel unloved.
Because efforts need acknowledgment to feel valued.
According to the law of supply and demand, what one person puts in, they should also receive back something in return.
If women put in effort without acknowledgment, they feel they are not loved by their men.
Yes, in marriage and relationships, women often attribute outcomes to love or lack thereof. Some men fail to comprehend this. In marriage, when divisions of labor differ between spouses, it’s easy for each to consider themselves the biggest contributor to the family and feel aggrieved, failing to see each other’s efforts.
A man who acknowledges your efforts sees your struggles, empathizes, and truly loves you.
2. Show respect towards you.
In marriage, many women have experienced being looked down upon by men, who exhibit patriarchal attitudes and believe they know best or treat their wives as outsiders, always on guard.
If a man fails to respect his wife, he will belittle her and find faults everywhere.
Such men tend to be authoritarian in their interactions or impose their views on their wives, expecting them to act according to their wishes. Failure to comply with this may result in disdain and oppression.
In reality, a man who does not respect his wife does not love her but treats her as a possession.
In “Rebuilding Intimacy in Relationships,” it is stated: “The depth of a relationship depends on whether both parties truly respect each other, recognize each other as individuals, respect their differences, and truly see each other.”
The more a man loves you, the more he will respect you. He will not try to change you but allow you to be yourself.
Because he respects you, he will regard you as an equal, even if he disagrees with you, he will defend your right to express your opinions.
He respects you, cherishes you in his heart, and loves you wholly.
3. Provide you with a sense of security.
One’s sense of security is best derived from within.
After marriage, due to the differing roles of men and women, many women who focus on childcare and household chores without a source of income easily lack security.
As individuals’ growth rates diverge, seeing increasingly successful men or those with whom they have little communication can lead women to feel insecure.
If a man voluntarily provides you with a sense of security, it is a manifestation of love.
The more a man loves you, the more he understands what matters to you.
To make you feel secure, he will strive to earn money to support the family, entrust you with financial matters, share household responsibilities, care for the children together, and although not shared in every aspect, whenever he is free, he will make an effort to be with you.
He will maintain a distance from other women, and even if professional obligations entail interaction with the opposite sex, he will inform you in advance to reassure you.
He expresses his love through actions, treats you and the children well, making you feel happy and fulfilled.
Staying committed in a marriage is not easy, and maintaining a marriage requires joint efforts from both individuals.
Whether a man loves you or not, it cannot dictate your growth and happiness.
Although a man’s love may bring sweetness and happiness, true love is manifested through actions.
When a man recognizes your struggles, respects you, provides you with security, then you should have no doubts about his love.
After marriage, love may fade, but as long as both parties understand how to nourish each other, love will persist.
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