Guys who always turn to their parents when something happens will always remain as immature babies. Because they always have a dependent mindset, relying on others for everything and blaming others when in trouble.
Just like when they were kids, their parents apologized to teachers when they got into fights, and their parents paid for their re-exams when they failed.
A person’s maturity is not determined by age. If someone reaches middle age and still relies on others for financial support, spending when they have money and asking for more when they don’t, then they will never grow up.
What does a truly mature guy look like? They know their dreams at 18, start working towards them at 20, and have already paved their own way by the age of 30.
They take control of their lives, are independent, don’t rely on others, and become the towering tree their family leans on.
Only children use crying and unreasonable behavior to seek sympathy. Adults have learned to control their emotions.
One of the basic qualities of a mature guy is emotional control. Even if they don’t show emotions, at the very least, they don’t display them openly.
Especially towards family, work stress, and career troubles should never be brought home, don’t burden them with your negativity.
On the other hand, immature guys tend to yell and vent their frustrations at home after facing setbacks, which is a sign of incompetence.
If one easily gets into relationships just to avoid loneliness and boredom, they will always be dependent on others.
As kids, they depended on parents for love and companionship; as adults, they seek care and attention from their partners. It must be said, they will live their lives as perpetual infants.
For mature guys, love is just a bonus; their main focus is on their careers and dreams. They understand that relationships are based on mutual value exchange, and being exceptional attracts the ideal partner and the love they deserve.
Such guys won’t get lost in wrong relationships; if they can’t find the right one, they will focus on self-improvement while being single.
What others offer you may not be what suits you.
Those who can’t say no may be viewed as kind-hearted but, in reality, they lack principles and easily fall into manipulation.
A genuinely mature guy is rational and assertive, actively making life choices rather than surrendering to fate.
Guys who settle for less in career and relationships lack control over their lives and struggle with asserting their values.
Ultimately, they lack confidence and doubt their ability to pursue true happiness.
A mature guy is characterized by a strong sense of responsibility where obligations weigh heavier than anything else.
Taking responsibility means playing different social roles conscientiously, maybe not flawlessly but certainly competently.
They are good fathers, husbands, sons, employees, bosses, partners, all adding value and help to family, friends, and colleagues.
In simple terms, they are valuable and helpful to everyone in their lives.
In contrast, immature guys are self-centered, never understand responsibilities, can’t be good fathers or sons, always seeking others to take responsibility for them.
Mature guys possess a sense of “solitude power,” enjoy being alone without being isolated, staying true to themselves amidst crowds, remaining clear-headed in chaos.
Like the saying “remain calm amid chaos,” their composure helps them become more authentic.
They won’t rush into marriages due to age or pressure; they won’t give up on their dreams for others’ opinions.
Essentially, the ability to be alone depends on rich inner lives. Those without aspirations or interests only fill their lives with superficial joys and distractions.
Mature guys don’t need external validation to fill their souls; their rich inner worlds suffice.
Unfortunately, some settled guys still expect others to fulfill their wants without reciprocation.
They find fulfillment through being catered to rather than finding joy in caring for others.
Mature guys are compassionate, grateful, and understand that love is reciprocal. Hence, they experience a higher level of emotional fulfillment where shared happiness leads to personal fulfillment.
Aside from loving their families, they love themselves, prioritize health and self-improvement, as they believe that by living well, they express love for their families.
The true sign of maturity is acknowledging one’s limitations and accepting that your efforts may not always lead to success.
Immature guys aim high, are obsessed with success, and let their desires cloud their judgment. They struggle to accept their limitations and the reality that they can’t always reach their goals or attain certain people.
In contrast, mature guys accept the ordinary truth and understand that not everything has a definitive outcome. They accept the effort they put in even if they don’t achieve their desires, focusing on living a life they are proud of.
As writer Zhou Guoping once said, there are three stages of growth in life: realizing you are not the center of the world, realizing your limitations, and accepting and enjoying the ordinariness of life.
