It is said that men are rational animals, and there is a reason for this. In their eyes, as long as they feel it is right, that is enough. In the eyes of women, men are emotional creatures, and a good heart is never as valuable as “a good mouth.”
Therefore, in many situations, a woman’s good intentions become a reason for others to harm themselves. Because speaking harshly can easily offend people, ultimately leading to being caught in a situation where one is neither respected nor liked.
Men also have dignity.
“You say you don’t like me anymore, then I’ll show you.”
Women believe that men have a strong sense of dignity, and therefore, they often expect men to have self-respect. But what women do not realize is that men also have dignity, and they wish to receive respect from women.
Thus, in many instances, they take a woman’s statement as a demand. In reality, he does not merely seek your respect; he just wants you to not be so dominating in front of him.
Because a woman who truly loves you will not constantly demand that you do this or that, but will consider problems from your perspective. If at that moment, you say something very firm to him, it will only make him feel embarrassed.
When you say things you shouldn’t, others will remember them.
Sometimes, a single remark can cause others to bear a grudge against you for a long time. When you say something inappropriate, others will remember that incident, and if one day you seek their help, they might remind you of the bad things they’ve done in the past.
Just like if a person always takes others’ kindness for granted, when that person is treated poorly or hurt by someone’s words, it sticks with them. Moreover, there are many times when you didn’t intend to remember that incident, but you unconsciously hold onto it.
So, some things should never be said aloud, or they will become a thorn in someone’s heart. The same goes for love; if a man constantly remembers the bad things you’ve done to him, he won’t like you. Therefore, women must learn to control their words.
Men also have vanity.
Many people say that women are easy to placate, but actually, men are also easy to appease; they just are not good at expressing their feelings.
However, in their hearts, they also hope to receive attention from women. So even if they love you deeply, their inability to express themselves means they can only convey their feelings through some means.
For example: giving gifts, treating you to meals, giving presents, etc., are all ways to express their feelings.
But what you say is crucial; you can directly tell him to make your intentions clear. Perhaps a man may misunderstand you due to his poor expression, but if you tell him your thoughts straightforwardly, he will likely appreciate your acknowledgment of him.
Men are creatures who care about face; if they feel unfulfilled by you, they will develop dissatisfaction. A woman’s eloquence can help men satisfy their vanity.
When you discover he is flirting around yet still speaks ill of him behind his back.
What women fear most is hearing that a man is flirting with them, while she has good intentions, but due to careless words, she ends up hurting her man.
For example, if you find your man has an unclear relationship with another woman, when you want to stop him, he might accuse you of being too controlling or say he feels happy being with you.
When you realize he thinks this way, you will inevitably get angry, but he will say it’s all for your sake; if it weren’t for this, you would have broken up long ago.
Such words will make a man feel wronged, as he knows he is right, but in a woman’s eyes, he is mistaken.
So when he is flirting with you, and you notice he is being hot and cold, you should remain calm and rational.
Do not pay attention to others’ gossip, as that is unimportant; what matters is your own heart.
