By/Xia Mo
01. Foreword
Love is like chocolate; it tastes sweet in the mouth, but too much of it can become cloying, making you not want to have another bite.
When a woman loves a man too much, it can make him feel “satiated.” He won’t be grateful; instead, he may find you troublesome and begin to cherish you less.
As mentioned in “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus”: “Men require the right to temporarily leave, and women also have the right to express their emotions.”
In “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus,” it states: “Men require the right to temporarily leave, and women also have the right to express their emotions.”
Men in life don’t value your efforts and take it for granted; you should reverse the situation.
02. Reduce the proportion of your efforts; don’t do everything yourself
I saw a video online:
A woman fell very ill and lay in bed with a fever for several days. To her surprise, she discovered that her husband could do everything.
He did the laundry, cooked meals, even cleaned the range hood and replaced the air conditioning filter.
Previously, she always thought that her husband couldn’t do household chores and, fearing he wouldn’t do them well, took it all upon herself.
She praised her husband, found him quite capable, and took the opportunity to redefine their roles in household tasks.
Later, her husband became more involved with household matters, and her burden significantly lightened.
Strangely, their relationship improved as well.
In marriage, it’s common for women to take charge of household duties, leading to a habit.
Perhaps it’s because she feels that men aren’t attentive enough or she’s too considerate of men, not wanting them to take on too much household work, wanting them to enjoy a more comfortable life.
However, this way of interacting can easily lead to an imbalance in their emotional state.
If a man doesn’t value your sacrifices, learn to reduce the proportion of your efforts and involve him. You may find he’s not as inept as you imagined.
Some household chores, he might even do better than you.
If you give him some space and reduce your contributions, he will become unaccustomed, which will make him pay more attention to you, appreciate your efforts, and cherish you more.
03. Don’t be too strong; learn to express vulnerability and fear
In “Home,” Fang Sijin appears as a “strong woman” in front of others.
She can handle clients that others in the store struggle with and sell houses that others can’t. But, despite her seemingly strong exterior, she is a helpless girl who has been exploited by her original family.
As her feelings for Xu Wenchang grew, she no longer clashed with him and gradually opened her heart to him.
When she slowly shared her background, Xu Wenchang’s eyes filled with compassion.
She began to show him her vulnerabilities, fears, and weaknesses, and upon hearing her experiences, Xu Wenchang only wished to offer her more care and love.
From that moment on, he loved her well, sheltered her from the wind and rain, and provided her with a warm home.
Women don’t need to pretend to be strong in front of someone they like.
Let men see your helplessness and vulnerability more often,
