By Xia Mo
01. Preface
Managing love is like nurturing a plant to grow.
If you want the plant to grow well, you also need to pay attention to the methods. If the methods are wrong, even the best-cared-for plant will wither.
When a man expresses love, a woman should also open her arms to embrace him, not disappoint him, not make him feel that what he gives is not needed by you.
The way to make a man care for you for a long time is summed up in four words: enhance mutual giving.
02. Acknowledge a Man’s Efforts and Praise Them in Time
Supper yesterday, my father made sweet and sour fish for my mother.
To be honest, I thought the fish wasn’t successful, a little salty, not fried thoroughly, a bit burnt on the outside, and slightly raw inside.
My mother, however, said, “This is how it’s done in restaurants. I think it’s just right, especially delicious, a bit salty with rice tastes fantastic, and I love this sweet and sour sauce.”
My father was very happy to hear this, humbly saying, “I haven’t made this dish in a long time, you like it, I will practice more, I will surely do better next time.”
While taking a walk after dinner, my mother said to me, “In relationships, one must know how to appreciate and not be so critical. On such a hot day, your dad spent so long in the kitchen. Even if the dish isn’t perfect, you can’t criticize and ruin his joy. This way, couples can live harmoniously.”
Communication between partners also needs to be balanced.
If you want a man to care for you in the long run, you must praise him promptly for his efforts towards you.
Leo Tolstoy said, “Praise has a considerable effect not only on a person’s emotions but also on their intellectual growth.”
Leo Tolstoy said, “Praise has a considerable effect not only on a person’s emotions but also on their intellectual growth.”
Don’t think a man doing things for you is a given, understand his hardships. Regardless of meeting your expectations or not, first encourage with love.
When he puts in effort to do something for you, even if it doesn’t meet your expectations, don’t just blame him.
Encourage and support more; this way, he will have more motivation to continue loving you and giving to you.
03. Express Needs Continuously to Make a Man Contribute to You
In the variety show “Joyful Wondrous Night,” there was a couple who turned their daily life into a sketch and acted it out.
The man gave the girl a gift, a huge backpack. All male viewers found the bag practical and cool, while the female audience booed.
Evidently, the girl did not like the gift he gave; she wasn’t happy at all. Her face showed her helplessness, not wanting to accept the oversized bag.
Women always feel that if you love me, you should know what I want.
However, men often think from their own perspective and believe that what they think is good will also be liked by women.
In the song “Recently” by Li Shengjie, it goes, “What you want, I can’t give you, what I can give, isn’t what you want to have. We don’t fit, but we don’t want to give up.”
In the song “Recently” by Li Shengjie, it goes, “What you want, I can’t give you, what I can give, isn’t what you want to have. We don’t fit, but we don’t want to give up.”
If you want a man to love you effortlessly and be willing to contribute to you, you must express your needs clearly.
Tell him what you like, how your ideal life is, and let him have a clear goal when striving.
Simple ways of getting along reduce misunderstandings and disappointments.
Clearly express your needs; make it easy for a man to fulfill your requirements. Don’t make him guess around; it will lead to a more harmonious relationship.
04. Reward and Give Back After a Man Contributes
Ushinski said, “If you can choose your work successfully and dedicate all your spirit to it, then happiness itself will find you.”
Ushinski said, “If you can choose your work successfully and dedicate all your spirit to it, then happiness itself will find you.”
In love, there must be giving and taking, gains and losses.
For example, when you receive a gift from him, feel the romance and surprises he creates for you, you must also respond; don’t be indifferent.
You can buy him things he especially likes, fulfill his small and big wishes.
If you want him to love you, once he puts in effort for you and receives love, you should encourage, praise, and also give tangible actions as rewards, let him see hope, and he will love you more.
When he does right, give rewards, give responses, fulfill his wishes appropriately, that’s when a relationship becomes better.
A man feeling your love will give you more care and adoration, be more dedicated to you.
05. Conclusion
Erich Fromm said in his book “The Art of Loving,” “The only real answer to human existence problems lies in harmonious relationships, in mutual blending, and in love.”
Erich Fromm said in his book “The Art of Loving,” “The only real answer to human existence problems lies in harmonious relationships, in mutual blending, and in love.”
Love is like playing badminton; if a man serves, and you can’t receive any, then playing back and forth will feel pointless.
When a man contributes to you and expresses love, women should give positive feedback.
For a relationship to thrive, there must be a balance of giving and receiving.
Adapt well, cherish the love a man gives, respond earnestly, and jointly create a beautiful life.
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Author: Xia Mo, rising emotional mentor, scholar of psychology, emotional writer with over 1 billion online fans, happiness woman manager, focusing on emotions, relationships, and in-law consultations for over a decade.
