Some say middle age is a high-risk period for men to betray their marriages. Some agree with this statement, while naturally, some oppose it. In fact, carefully considering this statement is not unreasonable.
After decades of marriage, love between two people has become a relationship akin to family. After years of living together, as time passes, the initial passion of romance fades, leading to thoughts of betrayal.
Based on the coordination and analysis of some cases, we have found that middle-aged men betray their marriages mostly out of a “desire” for these 4 things, which are very realistic.
01
Youthful beauty of young women
Seneca once said, “Youth is not a time of life, it is a state of mind.”
However, it cannot be denied that the external manifestations of youth – the firm skin, energetic figure, carefree smile – have an irresistible allure to many middle-aged men.
Amid the daily grind and the erosion of time, they may start to miss their lost youth and yearn to regain that long-lost vitality and passion through the company of young women.
This yearning, rather than being a pursuit of youthful flesh, is more of a longing for vitality and boundless possibilities in life. However, real youth is not only about age but also about attitude and energy.
Therefore, middle-aged men should realize that by engaging in activities such as sports, learning, traveling, they can also maintain inner youth and vigor, rather than placing hope in an unstable emotional relationship.
02
Seeking novelty from women outside
Wang Guozhen once said, “Familiar places have no scenery.”
The repetitive nature of married life can easily lead to feelings of boredom, especially for middle-aged couples, where familiarity with each other’s habits, hobbies, and even ways of arguing have become predictable. Novelty seems like a luxury for both sides.
At this point, some men may seek that long-lost “novelty” outside to try to reignite the spark in life with a new partner.
Although novelty is an important factor in sustaining love, it does not necessarily require changing partners to achieve. In marriage, both parties can maintain attraction by exploring new things together and creating new memories.
More importantly, learn to appreciate each other’s differences and discover new highlights in each other, allowing love to continuously grow amidst familiarity.
03
Seeking excitement
Romain Rolland once said, “A calm life does not create great people of the era, just as the lake of life cannot reflect the image of life.”
Having achieved certain success in career and family by middle age, men may feel a lack of challenges and excitement in life.
Therefore, some men may choose to seek a brief, intense emotional stimulus through betraying their marriage, as if only in this way can they prove their sense of presence and worth.
The pursuit of excitement is innate, but it should be premised on not harming others. Therefore, middle-aged men should seek healthier and more positive ways in life to satisfy this need, such as engaging in extreme sports, learning new skills, and challenging themselves.
These activities not only bring excitement but also promote personal growth and family harmony.
04
Longing for a woman’s tenderness
Marilyn Monroe once said, “Tenderness is the most powerful strength of women.”
In families, middle-aged men may feel exhausted due to shouldering too many responsibilities, yearning for care and tenderness from the opposite sex to relieve internal pressure and exhaustion.
Therefore, when this need is unmet in marriage, they may seek it outside.
Tenderness is one of the important bonds that sustain a marriage. As a wife, pay attention to your husband’s emotional needs and provide him with sufficient care and support.
At the same time, middle-aged men should learn to express their emotional needs and create a warm, harmonious family atmosphere with their wives. When both sides can show each other enough tenderness and understanding, the temptation of betrayal naturally diminishes greatly.
05
The reasons for middle-aged men betraying their marriages are complex and varied, but ultimately, they mostly stem from a deep “desire” for certain emotions. However, these desires can entirely be fulfilled through self-improvement, family communication, seeking new pleasures in life, and other means.
Remember, true love and happiness are never sustained by external stimuli and novelty, but require mutual efforts, mutual support, and joint growth from both parties.
If you choose marriage, you must be aware that life will inevitably become mundane one day, wives will eventually lose their youth and tenderness, and the excitement between spouses will diminish.
Yet isn’t this what married life is about? To grow old together, spouses must support each other, understand and accept each other, and make efforts for life together. When the days become dull, learn to cherish the present and cherish each other.
