“Daughters should be raised in abundance, sons should be raised in austerity,” is a saying that has circulated for many years. Although this statement may seem a bit absolute, it also reflects the different educational methods parents have for their daughters and sons from a side perspective.
The idea that “sons should be raised in poverty while daughters should be raised in wealth” is one that many parents also have.
In today’s society, with a wealth of material resources, people have more pursuits in both material and spiritual aspects. So, when men get married, who will they choose to be with?
A mother’s attitude towards her children
We often say, “A mother is a child’s best teacher.” A mother’s behavior in daily life subtly influences her child’s behavior.
In this situation, the mother’s attitude towards her child also determines the child’s attitude towards others as they grow up.
If a mother shows a nurturing attitude towards her child, that child will likely develop the same character as they mature.
This is why in many families, parents often say, “My greatest regret in life is not having properly raised you,” and arguments frequently occur between parents and children.
Because mothers often focus more on their own thoughts during the education of their children, their strictness is often aimed at ensuring the child becomes better.
A mother’s way of educating her daughter
In this world, maternal love is great, but paternal love is equally great. In the different educational methods of mothers and fathers, men tend to lean more towards the influence of their fathers.
Both paternal and maternal love are selfless emotions, and if family education only emphasizes maternal love, then men may become relatively selfish and irresponsible.
However, if there is more paternal love, men will become more responsible. They will work harder and take on the responsibilities of the family.
Of course, a mother should not overly indulge her children in the process of education. After a child makes a mistake, if the mother continues to shield them, the child will become even more unruly.
Thus, a mother’s education of her child should be based on a correct understanding and perception, so as not to deprive the child of opportunities for growth and development due to excessive indulgence.
What kind of person is a mother?
A mother’s educational methods significantly impact her children. When a mother educates her child, she is also subtly influencing them.
If a woman is very dissatisfied with her mother before marriage, even finding her imperfect, then in her future life, she may treat her daughter-in-law in a similar way.
Once these two people marry, their married life may become chaotic due to their mutual dislike for each other. This is because they cannot accept the qualities in each other that they are dissatisfied with, nor can they tolerate what they find unlikable in each other.
Therefore, in marriage, if you find that your mother-in-law has a terrible personality, you should consider whether this man can truly live with you. Because after the two of you marry, you will often argue over mother-in-law and daughter-in-law issues.
A mother’s attitude towards her own marriage
We all know that a mother is a man’s first teacher, and a mother’s influence on a man is profound.
A good mother allows her son to feel love and care as he grows up.
An unfit mother, on the other hand, instills fear of marriage in her son. Thus, if a man has a close relationship with his mother, he is likely to choose to spend his life with her.
From a psychological perspective, when a woman has a very good relationship with her mother, she also develops a strong dependency on that man.
When this man grows up, he may subconsciously wish to rely on this woman. If she treats him well, he will feel a sense of “I want her to treat me well.”
Conversely, if a man is dissatisfied with his mother, he will find it difficult to accept this woman from the heart.
