The dispute over who should manage the money between couples has always existed. Some people believe it should be managed by the woman, while others believe it should be managed by the man. However, in reality, this issue is not irreconcilable, and we should decide based on who is more suitable to manage the household finances. However, many women believe that only women can manage money well because it gives them a sense of security. Nevertheless, there are also some women who, despite having control over the family finances, have made a mess of it.
Recently, a netizen from Shanghai posted a video showing a man jumping into the river to commit suicide, with rescue personnel organizing the recovery operation. The riverbank was crowded with onlookers, all discussing the incident. It is understood that the man who jumped into the river was working in Shanghai, and his wife was also in Shanghai. The man would hand over his monthly salary to his wife for safekeeping, a common practice among many couples. The man earns money, and the woman manages it, which is a good model. After all, most women are meticulous and can manage finances prudently.
However, one day, the man received a call from his father saying that his mother was ill and hoping he could send some money home. As a son, he could not refuse. So, he approached his wife with this request, hoping to send some money home. However, his wife directly told him that there was no money at home. This surprised him because he had handed over all his earnings to his wife in recent years, and nothing significant had happened at home, so how could there be no money?
Upon further questioning, he found out that his wife had given all his savings to her brother because her brother needed money for his wedding, where the bride’s family required over 200,000 RMB as a bride price. The man was furious upon hearing this news. He felt that even if he should help his brother, he should not unconditionally give away all his savings. What about their own livelihood? However, his wife disregarded these concerns, believing that since it was her brother, who else should help him if not her? His mother was ill, so why didn’t she borrow money from someone else?
As a result, the couple had a big argument, and finally, the man, possibly unable to bear it, jumped into the river in a fit of anger. Upon seeing this, others immediately reported to the police, and rescue personnel arrived to recover the man. However, as the search and rescue continued, more and more onlookers gathered, all discussing the matter. The truth of the incident was eventually revealed to be caused by the wife unconditionally subsidizing her family.
After this incident was exposed online, it drew considerable attention from netizens. Some netizens commented that this woman was too foolish, not even living well herself yet unconditionally helping her family. In reality, such people are not uncommon in real life; they never understand their own position and endlessly try to help so-called family members. However, people like this often have a hard time in life. A partner may tolerate this for a while, but they can never tolerate it for a lifetime; no one wants to endure such behavior forever.
Faced with such a situation, what we need to reflect on is how to find a balance in managing family finances and handling family relationships in marriage. Trust and communication between spouses are key to problem-solving.
Firstly, regarding the management of family finances, both spouses should have an agreement that household finances are the joint responsibility of both partners. Whether it’s the man or the woman, they should have an understanding of the family’s financial situation and actively participate in managing household finances. This can not only avoid conflicts arising from financial matters but also help both spouses better understand each other and strengthen their relationship.
Secondly, concerning relationships with the extended family, both spouses need to clarify their responsibilities and boundaries. While helping family members is natural, unconditionally providing financial support to one’s own or in-laws’ families can often lead to conflicts between spouses. Therefore, when dealing with such issues, both spouses should prioritize the interests of the family, communicate fully, and reach a consensus.
Lastly, when facing challenges in marriage, both partners should have sufficient communication and understanding. When encountering difficulties, both spouses should face them together, rather than choosing to escape. Only by doing this can marital life become more harmonious and make the family a true haven.
Overall, issues related to finances and family relationships in marriage require joint efforts from both spouses to resolve. Only by doing so can marital life become more harmonious, making the family a genuine refuge. When facing these issues, we need to learn to analyze rationally, face them bravely, and resolve conflicts with love and understanding, creating a better future together.
