Love, which should have been a spark of intense collision between two hearts, sometimes quietly dims and turns into indifference and perfunctory.
As your emotional assistant, I have seen many stories of couples gradually drifting apart due to being “half-hearted.”
Today, let’s talk about the obvious “perfunctory” behaviors when a man’s feelings for you fade, helping you see through them at a glance.
1. Perfunctory phone calls and messages, slow replies to the point of frustration
“It feels like texting into thin air, waiting anxiously.”
He no longer replies to your messages instantly, the phone only rings a few times before hanging up, or it goes straight into silent mode.
This “disappearing act” is actually a signal of his emotional cooling towards you.
Messages go unanswered, calls go unreturned, it seems like his heart has closed its door to you for the most part.
A girl left a message saying: “Every time I want to chat with him, it’s like my messages disappear into thin air. When I finally get a reply, it’s just a few words. Not to mention making plans to meet, it’s harder than climbing a mountain!”
Look, this is not just an occasional oversight, but a frequent recurring act.
If he doesn’t have you in his heart, his actions naturally can’t keep up.
Communication is the lubricant of emotions.
If he keeps neglecting your messages, your emotional vehicle might be at risk of breaking down.
Try to have a heart-to-heart talk, see if he is willing to add some oil to your communication, otherwise, this road may narrow further.
2. Perfunctory date plans, standing you up becomes a routine
“The planned weekend movie date turns into a mere illusion.”
A date? Doesn’t exist, he always has countless excuses to turn your meetings into illusions.
Busy with work, feeling unwell, social gatherings – various excuses, but the core is one: he doesn’t want to see you.
A fan complained: “He always says he’s busy, postpones dates again and again, to the point that I felt embarrassed to bring it up. It feels like I will never fit into his schedule.”
This is not about being busy or not, it’s about him not making space for you in his heart. Someone who truly cares about you will make time to see you no matter how busy they are.
Dates are the preservative of love.
If he always leaves you waiting, you should seriously consider whether this relationship is worth your wait.
Don’t hesitate to have an honest conversation, ask him what he really thinks, and see if you can find a way to balance both the needs.
3. Perfunctory discussions about the future, promises vaguer than fog
“Our future, in his mouth, is like a fleeting cloud that you can’t grasp.”
Whenever the future is mentioned, he shifts the topic like a magician, always avoiding it.
Moving in together? Travel plans? He can always find an excuse to sidetrack the discussion or simply put you off with a “we’ll talk about it later.”
A netizen shared: “Every time I mention our future life, he’s always evasive, saying it’s not stable now, or just go with the flow. I’m getting more and more unsure whether I fit into his future plans.”
This vague attitude is actually his uncertainty and perfunctoriness about your relationship.
The future is a topic every relationship needs to face.
If he lacks a clear plan for the future, or even refuses to talk about it, you need to be cautious.
After all, when two people walk together, there should be a direction, shouldn’t there?
Find a chance to have a deep conversation with him, listen to his inner voice, and make a clear judgment for yourself.
Exclusive messages from the Cupid’s Workshop
Love is a dance between two people, it requires both to invest wholeheartedly in order to create the most beautiful melody.
When he starts to be perfunctory towards you, the negligence, evasion, and ambiguity are telling you: his heart may no longer be here.
When faced with these signals, don’t evade them, bravely face reality and make the best choice for yourself.
Remember, you deserve to have a sincere and passionate love, not endless waiting and perfunctoriness.
If you sense something is wrong, perhaps it’s time to give yourself a chance for a fresh start.
