In order to move forward with a happy marriage, you need to forgive each other and forget past grievances. Although this is difficult to achieve, doing so can allow the family to continue to thrive in happiness.
Resentment is a heavy burden, and when you forgive your partner, you will also gain a sense of peace for yourself. For families with children, discord between the couple can cast a deep shadow on the children, and taking a step back from each other will benefit the entire family.
Deng Jie and Qian Qian met online, and after dating for several years, they entered into marriage.
At first, Deng Jie’s parents opposed the relationship, but they couldn’t bear their son’s affection for Qian Qian, especially since she became pregnant, and eventually reluctantly agreed to their marriage. After twelve years of marriage, they raised two daughters together but ultimately divorced due to unpleasant circumstances.
After the divorce, Qian Qian took her younger daughter back to her hometown. However, a few years later, Qian Qian sought to remarry her ex-husband. This action greatly surprised Deng Jie, who firmly opposed it. As a result, they often argued, nearly every day.
What was going on? Why did Qian Qian, after many years of divorce, suddenly want to remarry? And why did her ex-husband strongly oppose it? Let’s take a look back at Qian Qian’s difficult experience in seeking to remarry.
35-year-old Qian Qian was originally from a rural area and later moved to the city for work. Through online interactions, she met Deng Jie, who is two years older than her. They were in a long-distance online relationship for more than two years and then dated offline for over a year before marrying.
After marriage, Qian Qian stayed home to take care of the elderly and the children, never having a job outside. She is a very assertive woman, and since their marriage, her husband’s salary card has been managed by her.
Each month, her husband could only receive about 200 yuan as pocket money. This way of living continued for twelve years, during which their conflicts increased, leading to divorce.
After the divorce, the elder daughter was given to the husband, while Qian Qian took the younger daughter. However, she never found a job and stayed at her in-laws’ house after the divorce, living there for over six months until her father-in-law sent her back to her hometown.
In the following years, she did not contact her husband. It wasn’t until their child turned seven and was about to start school that Qian Qian actively proposed remarriage.
However, her husband strongly opposed this, so Qian Qian had to take a step back and allowed her daughter’s household registration to be moved to her husband’s name.
No matter what suggestion she made, her husband would not accept it. For the sake of her daughter, Qian Qian had no choice but to seek help from journalists.
When the reporter reached Deng Jie, he stated that he would never remarry in his lifetime. Deng Jie had left his wife due to unbearable circumstances; before marriage, she was gentle with him, but after marriage, she controlled his salary card.
He was given 200 yuan per month to use, and when visiting relatives or colleagues for weddings, he had to ask his parents for money. If he asked Qian Qian for money, she would angrily scold him.
Moreover, Qian Qian was lazy at home, doing nothing at all. The elderly would prepare meals, and she would occasionally complain that the food was not good.
After giving birth to the first daughter, the family wanted her to have a second child.
But Qian Qian refused to let him touch her for six consecutive years. Every time he tried, she would hit him, pinch him, and there are still scars on his back from being pinched.
Reflecting on this marriage, Deng Jie felt the suffering he went through was so vast that it couldn’t be summed up in days and nights.
Upon hearing her husband’s grievances, Qian Qian refuted. She insisted that their relationship had always been good and that it was the elderly who caused the divorce.
According to Qian Qian, her father-in-law was biased towards males and was unhappy when the second child was a girl. Since then, he had been sowing discord between them, leading to their divorce.
Is this really the case?
When the reporter contacted Deng Jie’s father, the elder stated that he had never been optimistic about this marriage from the very beginning.
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