Ten men, nine flowers, truly and vividly revealing the nature of men.
However, some married men, for the sake of responsibility and loyalty to their wives, may not act on it, but some men have a “red flag at home, colorful flags outside” situation.
In this age of materialism, men cheating on their partners has become commonplace. So, how can you tell if your husband is having an affair?
If your husband shows the following signs, then you need to pay attention:
1. He has no desires for you.
Why do they say “absence makes the heart grow fonder”? Distance creates beauty; when a couple reunites after a separation, the joy and happiness are self-evident.
When a relationship feels dull and conflicts arise, perhaps a temporary separation can ease tensions and reduce friction. But is it really suitable for every couple?
Xiaolian has been married for three years, and her feelings with her husband have become as plain as water. As their child grows, expenses are also increasing.
So, they agreed: Xiaolian will stay home to take care of the child while her husband works in another city.
The sudden separation of the two made them both uncomfortable, living up to the saying, “This love can only become a memory, just lost in the moment.”
Since her husband left, five months have passed. The hardships of caring for the child alone vanished at the sight of her husband. That night, she purposefully left the child at her mother-in-law’s house, wanting to savor the precious moment of “a night of spring worth a thousand gold.”
After bathing, she returned to bed, pretending to be asleep. Her heart was restless, like a bunny hopping around, excited for what was to come.
However, things were far from ideal; there was no passionate embrace from her husband, no sweet words whispered in her ear – only the sound of his snoring.
Her heart turned cold in an instant, her sixth sense telling her that her husband was having an affair. But she quickly convinced herself that he was just tired from the journey.
Over the next few days, she felt her husband was being evasive, often staring blankly at his back.
She used to be someone who looked up at the sky, finding hope and a bright future in the azure sky. But now, she preferred the deep night sky, embracing all darkness and endurance, shedding tears unknown to anyone.
When a man cheats, even upon a reunion, if he lacks desire for you, it’s not that he doesn’t want you; he just no longer needs you.
2. He becomes sensitive to every phone call and message.
In the past, when the phone rang, her husband was lazy in answering, but now his phone is like a treasure, always in his pocket.
Every night, he claims to have a stomach ache, then goes out with his phone for an hour.
The eyes are the windows to the soul. When he receives a message, he looks flustered.
When a person is in a state of tension, eye contact can trigger the “fight or flight response” in the nervous system, causing gaze shifts.
The phone serves as a tool to connect separated lovers, yet it’s also like a bomb that could be discovered and detonated at any moment.
Xiaolian had always been doubtful about whether her husband was having an affair, until one day, she saw their ambiguous messages on his phone, leading to a complete breakdown.
When a man cheats, he is always glued to his phone, setting it to silent or vibration mode. He becomes extremely sensitive to incoming calls and messages.
For a man with a clear conscience and an open heart, he wouldn’t hide or be furtive about his phone or his gaze.
3. He suddenly shows excessive care for you.
A responsible man, if cheating, will feel a hint of guilt in his heart at home.
Upon reuniting after a long absence, though the passion may have diminished physically, he suddenly becomes much more diligent in daily life.
The one who used to leave socks lying around now takes the initiative to wash dirty socks;
The one who blamed his wife for not keeping the house clean now voluntarily mops the floor;
Nearing mealtime, he surprisingly suggests going out to buy groceries.
Under the guise of buying groceries, he is actually trying to escape the tense atmosphere.
When a man exhibits these three behaviors, it may not conclusively prove infidelity, but caution is necessary.
About Xiaolian’s marriage, I would say it is in a suboptimal condition. If her husband hasn’t mentioned divorce and wishes to conceal the issues, it means his heart still leans towards the family. You can give him a chance, but make sure to teach him a lesson.
When a wife faces her husband’s infidelity and his growing emotional and spiritual detachment, if there is still love in her heart, reviving the sweetness of marriage is a task that women must undertake. However, if the relationship is irreparable, one must decisively leave!
