A serious, non-joking person born after 1985
In a romantic relationship, the first person to lose interest enjoys a privilege: they experience less pain and can move directly into the next relationship without needing to heal after a breakup.
The person who is dumped not only suffers but also feels unwilling to accept it, often leading to hysteria. Those with a strong inner self may recover in two months, while those who are more vulnerable might take six months or more.
For women, a breakup is particularly damaging.
Women tend to be emotional; losing love feels like losing the entire world. They cannot relieve their inner pain rationally and can only rely on time to heal their wounds. Of course, if someone is willing to step up and care for them, it becomes much easier.
To help women escape this kind of crisis, the best approach is to identify signs that a man wants to break up early and address various conflicts in the relationship urgently.
Generally, when men want to break up, there are three signs:
Not long after, I noticed she wasn’t in good spirits at work, and then I realized she had broken up.
This situation is actually quite common in life. Social media is essentially the most convenient communication tool between us and our partners. Even at work, we can sneak in a few words. Those in the throes of romance often find themselves secretly chatting with their partners while at the computer.
The enthusiasm for chatting and the degree to which the other person cares about you are directly proportional. The more someone loves you, the more they enjoy seeing your messages. Once that love begins to fade, they may start to feel bored or even annoyed, disliking your messages and becoming less willing to respond. When all love is exhausted, they will decide to break up.
When you notice that the other person has started replacing pictures of you on their phone with scenic images, and you see fewer and fewer of your photos in their social media, that’s a sign they are beginning to lose affection for you.
When a man is not as in love with you, his first thought is to pursue the next target and needs to shape himself into a single persona. Pictures on his phone and social media can easily influence his chances of meeting someone new.
Perhaps he is still struggling with whether to end things, or maybe he doesn’t want to face an empty period, so he doesn’t let it show too openly.
Sometimes, men can be very hypocritical. They may not love you but don’t mind treating you as a backup. If they can still benefit from being with you, they won’t rush to break up as long as you don’t disrupt their plans; you can still remain by their side.
When you realize that during dates, he completely ignores what you say or doesn’t seem to hear you at all, it’s clear that you no longer hold a place in his heart; at the very least, you’re no longer important.
This state feels like being home, where you’re talking while he is engrossed in playing games on his phone, too lazy to lift his head.
It’s like when you’re doing laundry and need him to help, even if it’s washing his clothes, he shows no willingness to participate. Even if he helps, he will grumble and show reluctance.
It’s like when you suffer injustice at work, he will definitely tell you it’s a small matter and not to be too petty, but in reality, he hasn’t understood a thing you’ve said; he’s just giving you a perfunctory reply.
The relationship dynamics in romantic partnerships can be very fragile, relying solely on love. Once love fades, there’s naturally little motivation to contribute or treat you well. The worst individuals won’t even give you basic respect.
All the sincerity exists only during the time he is still telling you he loves you. Once love expires, that relationship loses all value; from the other person’s perspective, leaving you is akin to tossing away a piece of toilet paper, with no desire to look back.
If, unfortunately, the person beside you is like this, make sure to put in the effort to salvage the relationship where possible, and cut losses where it cannot be salvaged. Don’t let yourself become the one who gets hurt.
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