Haizi said:
“The warmth you gave me, I hadn’t had the time to get used to it before it was taken away. I was completely unprepared to care.”
When a man has someone else in his heart, he no longer offers you the tenderness and consideration he once did, but instead treats you coldly.
Perhaps you are not mentally prepared for this, and he has already taken on this attitude, making it difficult for you to know how to face it, which is why you might deceive yourself.
In reality, whether or not you love someone is very clear. If one day he changes his heart, no matter how hard you try, you cannot recover what was lost.
If a man no longer loves you and has someone else in his heart, the signs are two words: rejection!
1. Refusal to give you warmth
Women like warm things. When she chooses to be with someone, what she desires most is that warm feeling.
Maybe he once gave you that feeling, but later on, he lost the desire to provide you warmth, and even when you talk to him, he has a cold attitude.
A reader left a message in the background: “I don’t know what happened, he has become increasingly indifferent towards you, completely lacking the enthusiasm he once had. Even when I want to hold his hand, he shakes me off, looking very impatient. It’s really heartbreaking.”
After hearing this reader’s story, it becomes clear that the other party no longer loves her, which is why he refuses physical contact and doesn’t want to be warm towards her. The more she wishes to return to the past, the further away he seems.
She wants to ask him what is wrong, or beg him to turn back, but she still cannot muster the courage. If he has truly changed his heart, then no matter how hard she tries, it will be in vain.
2. Refusal to give you time
When a man has changed his heart, whenever you ask him if he has time, he mostly replies, “I’ve been really busy lately.” If you wish for him to make time for you, he merely expects you to be obedient.
Often, this is just his excuse; if he wants to be with you, he will find time. No matter how busy he is, there will always be moments he can spare for you, allowing you to feel that he still loves you.
It’s just that his heart is no longer with you, which makes time spent together feel particularly prolonged, even turning into a kind of torment.
For example, in “Thirty Only,” when Xu Huanshan chose Lin Youyou, it meant he was allocating a lot of time to her, while for Gu Jia, he was always in a state of being busy.
It’s not that he can’t find time for his family or his wife, he simply has to accompany someone else, naturally leading to a shortage of time to spare.
If a person is always busy in front of you, then let him go free. No matter what he is busy with, if there is no time to accompany you, then don’t force it.
3. Refusal to give you a future
The person who loves you will give you a promise, which is also a guarantee for him, at least that you won’t leave him.
But if a man doesn’t want to give you a future, every time you ask him when he will meet your parents or when you will settle down together, he will evade the issue. At this point, you should understand that you won’t get the answer you want.
In “Thirty Only,” Wang Manni initially believed that Liang Zhengxian was the one she would ultimately end up with, and she cherished this relationship deeply.
Unfortunately, even though Liang Zhengxian treated her well, giving her gifts and spending money on her, he refused to give her a future. Every time she asked about his plans for the future, he would change the topic.
Often, Liang Zhengxian’s attitude already indicated that he did not only have Wang Manni in his heart, and if she wanted to be with him, she had to accept that he has other women.
However, Wang Manni was blinded by vanity, always hoping for a miracle, thinking that he just hadn’t figured things out yet. In the end, when she saw his true colors, she finally awakened.
When a man no longer loves you and has someone else in his heart, his attitude will change, and he will no longer consider you.
If you have already sensed his change of heart, you should clearly understand that it is time to let go. Lingering on will only cause greater harm to yourself.
Do not expect him to turn back; a man who has changed his heart cannot be pulled back. It’s better to let him go, giving you both freedom. Although it may be hard to accept at first, believe that you will get through it.
