In married life, there may be conflicts and disagreements between you two over trivial matters, and a small dispute can escalate into a heated argument. At such moments, I hope you can pay attention to this: no matter how angry you are, please avoid saying these few statements lightly, as they can truly hurt a man’s feelings. Once damage is done, it is difficult to heal. Therefore, I hope you can speak and act with caution.
1. You are far worse than my ex-boyfriend.
Some women, in the heat of the moment, may impulsively say something like, “Compared to my ex, you are far worse.” Once these words are out, she may realize that what she said was inappropriate, but because she is upset, she feels too embarrassed to admit her mistake and insists on saying it. In fact, women should understand that in a man’s world, he hates being compared to your ex-boyfriend; it is a huge insult to him.
Therefore, I hope women can remember that no matter how angry you are, this statement should not be casually thrown around as it deeply hurts a man’s self-esteem.
2. I can’t continue living like this; let’s get a divorce.
In some arguments between young couples, when one party says something particularly upsetting, in the heat of the moment, the response might be: “If this life isn’t worth living, let’s just get a divorce.” Women need to understand that while it may be easy to say “let’s get a divorce,” have you thought about how much this statement will hurt the man’s heart? You went through so much to be together, and now, with a single careless remark about divorce, you have shattered all the ties between you. Just imagine how heartbroken a man must feel inside.
Therefore, I hope that no matter how angry you are, you shouldn’t recklessly say this. If you say it too often, it might just become a reality, but you know deep down that it’s not what you really want; you don’t actually want to divorce him. If he takes it seriously, how will you resolve things then?
3. You really have no ambition.
In a man’s world, one of the biggest taboos is for a woman to tell him he has no ambition or is a loser. These words are deeply offensive to men; you should never say them lightly. These terms imply an insult to him, contempt for him, and a disregard for all his achievements. Moreover, whether he has ambition or not is not something you can judge with a single remark. Some men have great potential; you may see him as lacking ambition now, but he might actually become successful in a few years.
So, avoid carelessly saying he has no ambition or calling him a loser as it can cause significant psychological harm to a man. Even if you reconcile later, he will always remember what you said, and there will forever be a barrier between you.
4. So many people pursued me back then; how could I marry you?
In a moment of anger, a woman is likely to say, “So many people pursued me back then; just pick anyone from those and they are better than you; how could I marry you?” In reality, this statement is just her venting frustrations, but some men take it seriously, and then he may feel that you look down on him. In future interactions, he will constantly remember this remark, and your relationship will become very sensitive.
Therefore, I hope that women, when arguing in the future, regardless of how angry you are, think about what can and cannot be said first, and then express it. This way, the potential harm to both parties may be lessened.
