Why do many women, who are reasonable and do not want to be tied down by others before starting a relationship, suddenly want to control their boyfriends once they are in love? Do they really have nothing else to do?
In fact, I believe that such women lack a sense of security. Some women are very worried that their boyfriend will leave or abandon them, so they choose to express their inappropriate desire for control to enhance their perceived sense of security.
Secondly, they yearn for a sense of security that belongs to their boyfriend, so subconsciously they believe that as long as they can control everything about their boyfriend, he will never leave them.
However, such seemingly affectionate behavior can appear incomprehensible to some men.
Because they always face the issue of having their phones checked, it makes them feel that being in a relationship means losing their privacy and personal space. After finally becoming adults and ‘escaping’ their mothers’ control, why would they want their girlfriend to act like a mother and monitor them?
Recently, a video sparked considerable debate among netizens. Some users believe that women only behave this way when they love a man, while others think this indicates a bad habit of prying into others’ privacy.
A woman has been with her boyfriend for three years, and during this time, she is always afraid that he will leave her. So on designated days, she checks his phone to feel at ease.
However, her boyfriend is very unhappy with her behavior but thinks perhaps it is because she lacks security, so he allows her to do this.
But when she learns that a new female colleague has joined her boyfriend’s company, she becomes paranoid and constantly worries that he will fall in love with that colleague after talking a little.
She is quite angry and comes up with a plan to install a tracker on her boyfriend’s phone so she can know his whereabouts and every move.
Later, she is discovered sneaking after him, and when they return home, her boyfriend is very angry and wants to break up. She keeps apologizing, saying she will never act like this again.
Her boyfriend feels that she is like a mother, wanting to control everything—what he wears, his relationship with female colleagues—there is nothing she doesn’t want to oversee, and he is very frustrated, so he brings up breaking up.
The woman doesn’t want this, and she keeps apologizing. When she realizes her boyfriend has chosen to ignore her, she starts to think about how to salvage this relationship.
