Avoiding speaking without a filter is a compulsory course for individuals to engage with society. Your way of behavior, speech, and conduct are to some extent your labels, and others’ first impressions of you all come from the side you convey to them. Encountering someone with a bad attitude and nonsensical speech may affect your mood for a day, but meeting someone who speaks freely and is full of goodwill will make you feel refreshed. Psychologists summarize that people with low emotional intelligence and lack of manners often exhibit these five characteristics, and it is essential to stay away from them as soon as possible.
1. Always maliciously speculate on others’ thoughts
People of this kind always have a dark heart beneath their shiny exterior. When they cannot get something, they must try to destroy it. Due to their jealousy, they freely create lies only to satisfy their selfish desires. Their thoughts are extreme, they do not believe in any kindness, and when encountering positive things, they always deliberately refute them. If you have such people around you, you must stay away from them because they will not only bring you positive emotions but also wear down your willpower.
2. Habitually dampen others’ morale
There may be people around you who, when you are still immersed in the joy of success, on the surface, tell you not to be proud as you may fail tomorrow. When you encounter setbacks, they not only will not comfort you but may even take pleasure in mocking you right away. These people may include your friends, relatives; they may not have ill intentions but just want to push you to do better, to listen to advice. However, if they always help you by throwing cold water on you, it’s best to stay away from them as they will only disrupt your thoughts and make you more agitated.
3. Like deliberately teasing others’ shortcomings
Everyone is not perfect, and there may be some flaws in character. But these flaws are not excuses for those who speak without a filter to mock you. They think they are very humorous and good at lightening the mood, not knowing that others are just laughing at their foolishness. People who act without considering others’ feelings, self-proclaimed “humorous,” should be kept at a distance. Otherwise, they may easily offend someone and may even implicate you.
4. Always morally blackmail others’ lives
With the development of internet technology, people are accustomed to seeing all the news without leaving their homes, but the anonymity behind the internet allows some internet trolls to act recklessly. They like to stand on the moral high ground of God to attack others, like “if celebrities are so rich, why don’t they donate more?” or “dogs are so pitiful, why don’t they get vaccinated after being bitten?” Such behavior is truly despicable. Strict with others, lenient with oneself, this is a common point among most moral blackmailers. It’s really disheartening to say “if you’re brothers, act like it” at the dinner table. Beautiful feelings are kept in the heart and should not be casually put on the table to be tainted.
5. Like violating and defaming others’ privacy
Everyone has their psychological boundaries and desires to be respected. However, invading others’ privacy is very common in life, yet you cannot condemn it because these actions are very minor and do not pose significant harm in the short term, so you can only accept your misfortune. For example, someone used your belongings without your consent or secretly checked your phone. The scariest part is not intentionally infringing on your privacy but not being aware that they have, which is the most dangerous because it indicates a lack of upbringing. Being with well-mannered people brings joy and ease, but being with those without manners may lead to harm. The best way to deal with such individuals is to stay as far away as possible.
