Why do people commit suicide, even repeatedly? This is a question many people have.
Regarding this, a person who attempted suicide twice gave an explanation. He said, quite simply, that it’s because they don’t truly grasp the consequences of suicide!
So, what are the consequences of a person’s suicide, or rather, what impact does it have on the family?
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As someone who attempted suicide, he realized the consequences of suicide after his second unsuccessful attempt when he saw his mother.
They met at the airport, where his mother came to pick him up. As he got off the plane, he saw from a distance that his mother was alone, standing by the exit gate, staring blankly, her hair in disarray. Among the crowd coming and going, he felt for the first time just how lonely and helpless his mother seemed…
What hurt him the most was that his mother, out of worry and fear, seemed to have aged by ten years in less than half a year.
It’s worth noting that half a year ago, when they last saw each other through video calls, there wasn’t a single wrinkle on his mother’s face, but now it was all wrinkled, with empty eyes and a noticeably bent back.
Unable to hold back, he retreated to the nearby restroom and cried for a long time before coming out, thus breaking the thought of ending his life and going home with his mother.
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Just imagine, the impact of an attempted suicide can be this significant, so how terrible would the destructive consequences of a successful suicide be?
2.
Studies show that the families of suicide victims suffer greatly.
A comedian filmed a video to tell the story of her sister’s suicide. At first, everything seemed normal, but halfway through the video, she burst into tears uncontrollably.
Because suicide is different from normal death, it brings guilt to the family, making them spend the rest of their lives pondering over what they could have done to prevent the tragedy and blaming themselves for inaction.
Many families of suicide victims get trapped in pain. Just like a math teacher who worried after her husband’s suicide: “If in the future I have grandchildren and they ask about their grandfather’s death, how should I answer them? Should I say your grandfather shattered the ‘family creed of working together’ in an instant? Should I say my love couldn’t stop him from committing suicide?”
Furthermore, accusations are everywhere. Some remember feeling the strange glances in the community after their husband’s suicide, as if they were tainted with something extremely awful.
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Research shows that almost all family members of suicide victims say they feel socially isolated and extremely hopeless.
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When a person commits suicide, not only does it cause a mental blow to the family, but it also has economic repercussions, especially when the primary breadwinner in a family takes their own life.
For example, in a village, a young man who felt greatly wronged and misunderstood chose to drown himself in a nearby reservoir.
After his death, the whole family fell into distress, leaving his young wife, in her twenties, with a two-year-old son and a few months old daughter.
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There are many cases like this where suicide leads to impoverishment and re-poverty.
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We say that the harm caused by suicide to a family is continuous and permanent, not only because losing a loved one brings sorrow and hardship to the family, but also because choosing suicide as a solution sets a bad example for the family.
In other words, future generations are likely to imitate such behavior!
Just as someone mentioned, when he was in his teens, his father took his own life. For over a decade after that, many nights were spent wondering why his father did that, whether the family had disappointed him too much?
Unfortunately, his brother also followed the same path. This made him question how long he could hold on and whether he would also follow their footsteps?
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Look, suicide spreads among family members this way!
5.
In my view, living in the context of family and social relationships is like being a node in a fishing net. This means that one person’s self-destruction often affects, or rather, harms a large number of people around them.
Though people have the right to choose, self-destruction is ultimately unacceptable, as it is too cruel for both oneself and others.
