1. Always saying “I’m very busy”
A man who truly loves you, no matter how busy he is, will make time to be with you and take care of you. Because he knows that companionship is the longest confession of love. However, when a man constantly uses “I’m very busy” as an excuse to brush you off, you need to be cautious. The underlying message of this phrase may be: “I don’t think the time spent with you is important; I have more important things to do.”
Sometimes, he may indeed be very busy, but that’s not the main reason. The real reason is that he is using busyness as a shield to avoid his responsibilities and commitments to you. Such a man not only doesn’t care about your feelings but may even find your presence a burden.
2. Always saying “Can you understand me?”
In a relationship, mutual understanding is very important. However, when a man constantly asks you to “understand” him, he may not have considered your feelings. Behind this phrase lies a kind of selfishness: he hopes you can unconditionally tolerate his mistakes and accept his flaws, while he is unwilling to make any changes for you.
Such a man often makes you feel increasingly humble in the relationship. You are always trying to understand him, yet he has never truly cared about your needs. Over time, you will find yourself feeling increasingly lonely and losing your sense of self in this relationship.
3. Always saying “Let’s calm down for a moment”
When there are issues in your relationship, he often suggests “Let’s calm down for a moment.” This phrase seems to be aimed at resolving the problem; in reality, it is evading the issue. He hopes that through this cold treatment, you will gradually accept reality and lower your expectations of him.
Calming down is not frightening; what is frightening is that during this time, he stops caring about you and no longer actively reaches out to you. This kind of calmness is actually a form of emotional abuse. He hopes to make you back away, thereby achieving his goal of breaking up.
4. Always saying “I’ll change in the future”
A man who truly loves you will immediately correct his mistakes upon realizing he has a problem, because he doesn’t want you to be hurt. However, a man who always uses “I’ll change in the future” to brush you off is actually procrastinating. He may have no intention of changing at all and just wants to reassure you temporarily.
This kind of promise is often the least reliable. He can easily say this today and forget his promise tomorrow. Being with a man who constantly brushes you off means you will never attain true happiness.
5. Always saying “Can you stop being unreasonable?”
In a relationship, women sometimes exhibit small emotions, which is very normal. A man who truly loves you will tolerate your little outbursts, finding them endearing. However, when a man always accuses you of “being unreasonable,” he is actually negating your feelings.
Behind this phrase lies his dissatisfaction and weariness with you. He feels that your emotions are unnecessary and even views your presence as a burden. Such a man not only fails to cherish your feelings but may also subconsciously wish for you to leave him.
