Zhang Xiaoxian once said: “Love is a dance for two people. I don’t mind if both people dance poorly, but I mind a lot if I’m the only one dancing while the other person just stands by.”
The most painful feeling is when you give your one hundred percent determination and love, but the other person is very indifferent. The one who is hurt will constantly doubt themselves and feel unwilling.
In fact, when someone doesn’t love you, it doesn’t happen suddenly; there are signs in the process of being together.
If you are sincere about love and have given your heart, then you absolutely need to learn to observe.
When a man no longer provides you with these two things, it is mostly because he no longer loves you.
01: No longer giving you respect and care
A man who truly loves you will be somewhat nervous when he is with you, afraid of upsetting you.
He will respect your decisions, care about you all the time, and even after being in a relationship for a while, his way of being with you remains considerate and gentle.
When a man no longer gives you basic respect and care, it is the best evidence that he doesn’t love you anymore.
He will seem to have no boundaries with other women, even being very flirtatious. When you face difficulties or are in a bad mood and tell him, his attitude will become cold, treating you as a stranger.
Yu Shan (alias) has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for almost two years. At the beginning, their feelings were sweet, but in the past six months, her boyfriend has been very disrespectful towards Yu Shan.
When they are together, her boyfriend is always on his phone, playing games or chatting with other people.
He often criticizes Yu Shan’s clothing and taste in front of other friends, making her feel very insecure.
When Yu Shan was sick with a high fever of nearly forty degrees, her boyfriend showed no concern and made her get a drip at the hospital alone.
When a man no longer gives you respect and care, it means he no longer loves you. Wise women know to cut losses in time and will not allow a man to be so indifferent towards themselves.
02: No longer providing you with resources and support
In “Intimacy”, there is a saying: “Falling in love with someone is not about what you can get from them, but about what you can do for yourself.”
At the beginning of your relationship, a man, because he loves you deeply, is willing to sacrifice more and will try to give you the best love.
It’s not just verbal promises; he also makes practical plans and arrangements for you.
For example, if you are looking for a job, he will keep an eye out for you, introduce you to people he knows, and give you more opportunities to find something you enjoy doing.
He will provide all the resources helpful to you and give you the support and understanding you desire.
When a man stops doing this, becomes indifferent to your affairs, or is cautious, it means he no longer loves you. In his mind, you are not worthy of his love and sincere treatment.
He is already planning when to break up with you, but you are still immersed in love, constantly fantasizing about the future.
In a relationship between a man and a woman, if a man stops providing you with resources and help, you need to be alert. His apparent goodness towards you is just perfunctory.
You need to see the reality of this relationship. If he is not someone you can handle, then it’s smart to let go early and take back your love and efforts; that is the wise choice.
When a man no longer provides you with these two things, it is mostly because he no longer loves you.
The clearer and more self-loving a woman is, the more she will detach herself from wrong relationships and not get lost in them.
