By Xia Mo
01. Preface
Life is like a train, it will have many stopovers and encounters with many companions, always feeling that there will be better encounters ahead.
After losing, you realize that the person who boarded the train with you at the beginning is the most suitable partner for you.
Many men always easily give up on marriage, thinking the next one will be better. After going in circles and returning to the starting point, after getting hurt, can one truly see the truth of love.
In “Don’t Be Afraid of Getting Hurt if You Want to Play,” it is written: “Sometimes, knowing it’s wrong, you still have to persevere because of unwillingness; knowing it’s love, you still have to let go because there is no ending; sometimes, knowing there’s no way forward, but still moving forward because of habit.”
In “Don’t Be Afraid of Getting Hurt if You Want to Play,” it is written: “Sometimes, knowing it’s wrong, you still have to persevere because of unwillingness; knowing it’s love, you still have to let go because there is no ending; sometimes, knowing there’s no way forward, but still moving forward because of habit.”
After divorce, if a man does the following, he wants to rekindle the relationship.
02. Relentlessly pursuing the ex-wife and always complying with her wishes
The neighbor’s sister and her husband got divorced, and the husband moved out.
After the divorce, she hadn’t seen her husband for about three or four months, but these days, she noticed him visiting frequently.
A few times, when I returned home from work, I found him standing at the door, hesitating to come in. Several times, I saw him acting as a “delivery guy,” leaving purchased items hanging on the doorknob, knocking on the door, and then leaving.
Sometimes bringing fish, meat, sometimes buying fruits that his wife likes to eat.
Coincidentally, the other day, the neighbor sister sprained her foot wearing high heels, and I took her to the hospital.
She hesitated and then called her ex-husband.
The man quickly arrived, panting, asking if she was in pain, why she was so careless, and even said she shouldn’t wear high heels again in the future.
He thanked me and said he would invite me for dinner once his ex-wife’s foot gets better.
It looks like they might get back together soon.
Iris Yamauchi said: “When it comes to emotions, it’s irrational. Falling in love with someone, you are not in control of your body or your heart.”
Iris Yamauchi said: “When it comes to emotions, it’s irrational. Falling in love with someone, you are not in control of your body or your heart.”
Two people divorced impulsively, but it was just a contest of wills. They still love each other, still care for each other.
If a man understands and can set aside his pride to reconcile, unless he has seriously violated fundamental principles, a woman will likely give him another chance.
When a man starts chasing back his ex-wife, it means he has truly realized, felt the goodness of his wife, and learned to cherish.
03. Continuously meeting the ex-wife in the name of the child
Sometimes when a couple is together, because they are too familiar, they don’t realize how important the other is.
Only after a real divorce do they realize how much the other has contributed to the family, the impact on the child, and how important they are in their own hearts.
After many men divorce, unable to find a reason to remarry, they use the child as a “bridge” to meet the ex-wife.
For example, he may say the child wants to go to an amusement park and invite the wife to accompany them; or say in order to give the child a happy childhood, they participate in some parent-child activities together.
Or take the child on a trip to increase interaction between the two, increase the connection between them.
When a man always finds you, using the child as an excuse, appearing frequently in front of you. Taking the child out to play, wanting your company, in reality, he has ulterior motives.
He wants more chances to communicate with you, to let you see the family of three together, and the child is also happy.
Even if you have many dissatisfactions with him, for the sake of the child, you may soften your heart, giving him a chance to return to the family.
A man, using the child as an excuse, actually hopes for his wife’s forgiveness and yearns to return home.
04. Efforts to change one’s shortcomings to win back the ex-wife’s heart
In “Exclusive Fairy Tale,” Ling Chao’s father, in order to prove himself and earn more money, went out alone to seek his fortune, leaving Ling Chao and his mother to rely on each other.
Ling Chao’s father succeeded in his career and returned to their mother and son.
However, Ling Chao was full of complaints and grievances towards his father who had left, and for a while couldn’t accept him.
He made efforts to compensate for his wife and son, admitting that he had been impulsive and inconsiderate in the past, and understanding that earning more money, being together as a family, and living peacefully are more important.
He gained his wife’s forgiveness, reconciled with his son, and regained a happy family.
When a man truly wants to return to his wife, he will definitely introspect.
He will think about what promises he made to his wife in the past that he didn’t fulfill; he will consider what his shortcomings are, things his wife wanted him to change but he didn’t.
In order to prove that he truly loves her, he will change his shortcomings, give up his bad habits.
In “Loving You is the Best Thing I’ve Ever Done,” it says: “The wounds of a lifetime are not healed with words or forgotten over endless time, but healed with happiness.”
In “Loving You is the Best Thing I’ve Ever Done,” it says: “The wounds of a lifetime are not healed with words or forgotten over endless time, but healed with happiness.”
His self-improvement efforts are to seek his wife’s forgiveness, hoping to find a way back home.
05. Conclusion
As a couple, it’s important to cultivate your marriage with care, don’t wait until you lose it to regret.
Xue Xiao Chan wrote: “I thought one day I would completely forget about love, forget about you. But suddenly one day, I heard an old love song, and my tears started to flow. Because we listened to this song together.”
Xue Xiao Chan wrote: “I thought one day I would completely forget about love, forget about you. But suddenly one day, I heard an old love song, and my tears started to flow. Because we listened to this song together.”
Not every relationship has a chance for a fresh start, not every person who has been hurt will wait for you to return.
If you love each other, don’t hurt each other. Love should overcome all obstacles and persist to the end.
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Author: Xia Mo, a rising emotional mentor, psychologist, emotional writer with over 1 billion fans online, a happiness women’s manager, focusing on emotions, relationships, and mother-in-law guidance for over a decade.
