The book on emotions, “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus,” includes this line:
Men need solitude in their caves, while women need close connections in relationships.
This reveals the essence of emotional blending between men and women.
Those who navigate love with ease do so because they understand each other’s needs in the relationship and can satisfy one another’s requirements.
In contrast, those who feel exhausted by love often express it solely according to their own desires, neglecting their partner’s feelings.
What men often crave in love is not the care of their partners, but solitude in their own world.
In moments like these, do not show concern for men; the less attention you give them, the more they will love you.
Men intentionally hide their pressures, do not expose them
In the TV drama “Small Happiness,” when Fang Yuan loses his job, his first reaction is to hide it from his family and bear the burden alone.
His intention is to find a job first and then explain to his wife, shouldering the pressure alone.
For most men, unemployment is a difficult topic to broach, tied to self-esteem and face, but more importantly, he does not want to worry his family.
A man’s unemployment signifies the loss of the family’s pillar, resulting in a loss of financial support, creating immense pressure on him.
They do not want their wives to worry about money and prefer to bear the frustration themselves.
At such times, women should understand men’s feelings, learn to empathize with them, and refrain from exposing the issue or discussing it excessively; your concern will only increase their pressure.
When men go out for dinners, your untrusting “concern” may annoy them
Once, during a dinner with colleagues, one male colleague’s phone kept ringing.
It was his girlfriend calling, and the man explained that he was out with colleagues.
The girlfriend then asked if he was dining with people from the department, if there were only men or also women, and requested a video to prove who he was with.
At that moment, the man complied and did as she asked.
However, thereafter the girlfriend kept calling, asking when he would return and why it was still not over.
As the calls continued, the man’s patience wore thin, and he became irritable, eventually turning off his phone for peace.
Many women in love can become overly vigilant, acting clingy.
They seek security from men, controlling their whereabouts.
However, men crave freedom and space; your untrusting concern is recognized and will only make him weary.
Do not interfere too much with a man’s career; he knows what he is doing, give him time and space
I acknowledge that some men in life are not ambitious, lack responsibility, and drift through life aimlessly.
They have no plans for their lives, no ambitions in their careers, are not focused, and are irresponsible.
They place the burdens of life on women, leaving them without hope.
Such men may need constant prompting and oversight from women to spur them on.
However, most men are quite reliable, harboring thoughts and plans for their careers.
They know what they need to do and are aware of their own pressures.
They do not require women to constantly remind them of how high the stakes are, nor do they need women to repeatedly inquire about career developments.
Pushing them too hard will not lead to them becoming millionaires; instead, it may drive them away.
While some aspects of life can be managed, it is best not to meddle in a man’s career matters; he knows his path, so give him time to grow.
