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It’s very easy for men and women to develop feelings for each other when they stay together.
After all, it’s natural for the opposite sexes to attract, but for two people to support each other through life’s realities is not so simple.
At the beginning of a romance, both are immersed in the thrill of dopamine-fueled love.
They don’t realize that getting along with the opposite sex isn’t just about feelings and attraction. When a woman is with a man, she needs to avoid “this issue”; otherwise, he will be put off.
A woman should share less with a man and not easily express her true feelings.
[Expressing oneself leads to a lack of novelty]
When interacting with men, if a woman frequently chats with them.
By continuously talking with a man, he will naturally come to understand a woman’s needs and thoughts easily.
When a woman is in front of a man, she becomes like a mirror.
She will no longer be able to stimulate his curiosity. Once a man loses the desire to understand a woman further,
he will naturally lose interest in her and will not have high expectations of her anymore.
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[Expressing oneself leads to dependency on men]
Men do not enjoy chatting; chatting is just a woman’s need.
When chatting becomes a woman’s norm, she may fall in love with the man because of the conversations.
It’s like the story of chopping wood and herding sheep—women become engrossed in the conversation while men simply kill time.
As a result, women may mistakenly believe that men have fallen in love with them, unable to extricate themselves from this illusory feeling.
Meanwhile, men either disappear during the conversation or charm their way into getting what they want, only to vanish without a trace after.
[Expressing oneself leads men to underestimate women]
When women frequently share their inner thoughts with men,
men come to know too much about them, leading to underestimating women, thinking they depend too much on them. They attempt to achieve the love and desires they want through women.
When men know everything about women, they will tease them for fun, but they will never invest their true-hearted emotions.
Women who frequently seek out conversations with men will only make them feel undervalued, believing that women are not worth their genuine feelings.
Summary by Yu Liansha:
The core need of men is not to chat at all.
Their life goals revolve around career and money. Occasional chatting is merely a way to have women accompany them to pass the time.
When chatting with strange men feels very pleasant,
women should be cautious and must not assume they have encountered true love or their prince charming. They may just be a skilled hunter treating you as prey.
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Yu Liansha (Author in the field of emotions)
Engaged in marriage and love writing for 6 years, emotional consulting for 7 years, and promoting Chinese culture for 9 years.
Through phenomena, understand the essence. Life is about knowing cause and effect, and understanding choices and trade-offs!
