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Recently, I often receive messages from some sisters saying that they can’t continue with their relationship, but they don’t know what to do and would like to hear my advice.
I know that reaching a point where things cannot continue indicates that there are irreconcilable contradictions in the marriage or relationship. At such times, I do not recommend making impulsive decisions, but I also do not suggest compromising and enduring.
In my view, when faced with relationship problems, it is essential to identify the crux of the issue, work hard to solve it, and if it truly cannot be resolved, to cut losses in a timely manner. This way, you won’t feel wronged or end up regretting your decisions.
So, what should we do at this stage? I have five suggestions for my sisters; by doing these five things, I believe you will make a better decision more swiftly.
Remember, no matter what, we must make ourselves happier; we must love ourselves.
Think carefully about how to live your future days
Many sisters who consult me don’t actually know whether they should leave this man and give up this relationship, but instead, they haven’t figured out what to do about their own future.
No matter how unbearable this person is, they can still form a habit, and changing that habit isn’t easy.
Moreover, many women are also entangled in economic aspects with their partners, and there may also be issues involving children, which leave the sisters unsure of what to do.
I also do not advocate for blind divorce; I hope you can think carefully about how to live your future, such as whether you can face and resolve some of the difficulties and problems you encounter.
This means that you first need to have a determination—the determination to face a brand new future—so that you won’t regret the decisions you make, and you can grit your teeth and move forward.
Assess your abilities
Leaving a wrong relationship can actually be a wonderful thing, but why do so many sisters hesitate to leave or find themselves no happier after leaving?
It’s because they don’t have enough ability to support their future lives and are unwilling to continue suffering, which creates such conflicts.
So, once you’ve figured out how you want to live your future, you need to assess your abilities and see if you have enough competence to take that step.
If not, then I suggest you take a moment to pause, work hard to improve yourself, or accumulate a bit, before taking this step. This way, you can minimize your suffering and avoid regrets.
Of course, no one can be completely prepared before leaving a marriage; you need to control this balance and always prioritize loving yourself, which is truly important.
Collect evidence in your favor
Divorce is not a trivial matter; many girls stumble into this step only to find they don’t have any evidence in their favor.
Don’t think I’m exaggerating; the human heart is the hardest to gauge. Many men will seem fine when they have feelings for you, but when those feelings fade, they can be ruthless to the point of instilling fear.
So, if sisters truly feel they can’t go on with this man, they should first gather evidence in their favor, such as understanding the economic situation at home, and ensuring they have the freedom to choose regarding children or other matters.
Although I know doing these things will make you feel very desolate, there’s no other way. Since you have reached this point, you must prepare for it.
Women should never be too soft-hearted or overly sentimental; otherwise, you may easily get hurt.
Find a good way out for yourself
If you ask me, what is the most necessary preparation for wanting to leave a bad relationship? I would tell you it’s finding a good way out for yourself.
Finding a way out means that after leaving this man, you should at least be able to live normally, have a place to stay, explain to family and relatives, and make yourself happier.
Although I know this is not easy, it is something you must do in advance; otherwise, your future life will definitely be chaotic.
I have seen too many women who left blindly without finding a way out; most of them regretted it, not because of leaving, but because…
