By/Xia Mo
01, Preface
Good love, like the stars in the sky, makes your life brilliant.
If you want a man’s love for you to deepen, understand how to manage it, so that the two of you can have more beautiful moments.
If two people don’t know how to cooperate, always dampen each other’s spirits, not being on the same page, they will gradually drift apart.
In psychology, there is a concept called “disappointed isolation”: “When a person accumulates disappointment in a relationship, they are unwilling to contact the other person again to avoid being hurt.”
To make a man love you deeply, one privilege is enough: don’t dampen his spirits.
02, Not dampening spirits is a mature love
In my parents’ bedroom, there hangs a very ugly oil painting.
The oil paints are not spread evenly, and you can barely make out that it’s a large bouquet of flowers, but it’s hard to tell what kind of flowers they are.
Later, I learned that this was the first gift my father gave my mother when he was courting her.
He said flowers wither easily, so he learned to paint and hoped to give her everlasting flowers.
Although ugly, my mother felt my father’s sincerity, she didn’t nitpick the painting skills but gave him a big hug, praising him for being especially romantic.
Thinking back over the years, in their relationship, they always encouraged each other, supported each other, living in harmony, intimately.
Wang Xiaobo said: “I have the deepest feelings for many people, especially for you. I want to do good deeds for others, especially for you.”
Learning not to dampen spirits is a mature love.
Learn to understand a man’s thoughts, feel his sincerity and true emotions, don’t always focus on imperfections.
When with him, don’t dampen spirits, listen carefully to his plans, accompany him on outings, participate in meaningful activities, enriching life.
Men, because of your cooperation, will feel life becoming more wonderful.
03, Cooperating more with men, experiencing the wonders of life together
Marital relationships deteriorate mainly due to “lack of cooperation.”
For example, when a man excitedly invites you out to dinner, and you resist, complaining about the cost and refuse to go.
He finally had time, made plans, took you on a trip, and you say it’s too tiring to go out, denying the idea of traveling together.
Repeated instances like this, a man no longer wants to experience a different life with you.
Because with you, he only gets negative answers. He keeps hitting a wall, losing interest in dating you.
Dale Carnegie said: “Those who do not respect others’ feelings will only cause others’ annoyance and hatred.”
Women, if you want a man to love you, give him the opportunity to please you, follow his pace to experience a beautiful life.
Don’t always be negative, don’t let him lose confidence in managing the relationship.
Even if some of his ideas are outlandish, plans half-baked, joining him in his madness, being by his side, he will love you more.
Try doing things he likes, see more interesting areas from his perspective, giving you more common topics.
04, Supporting a man’s decisions, let him be himself
In “A Lifetime Love,” Shi Yi noticed that Zhou Shengchen didn’t want to inherit the family business, just focusing on scientific research.
After getting drunk, she talked about taking him away, even saying she could “support him,” letting him do what he loves.
In Shi Yi’s eyes, being the heir to Zhou’s family, having vast riches were inconsequential.
What mattered was his happiness, living the life he desired.
Women, give him more decision-making power, don’t always suppress his decisions.
Instead, learn to support him, allow him to bravely take risks, try, do what he wishes. Regardless of success, let him walk the path he chooses.
Everyone has a path to walk, being together shouldn’t restrict or change him.
When a man makes decisions, support him, be his backup.
If you don’t dampen spirits, a man will see you as his comrade, soulmate. Your position in his heart will rise, and he will give you more love, accepting you into his world.
05, Conclusion
Tagore said: “If love doesn’t allow differences between each other, then why are there differences everywhere in the world?”
Women, when with a man, be someone who doesn’t dampen spirits, he will love you more.
Even if your thoughts don’t align perfectly, don’t completely reject him, don’t ruin his excitement.
Suggest your viewpoints, making your rituals more perfect, enhancing the shared experience of life.
Be attentive, care about his feelings, make him happy, and he will stay by your side, making your lives fuller and more complete.
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Author: Xia Mo, emerging emotional mentor, psychological scholar, online popular emotional writer with over 1 billion fans, happy women’s manager, focusing on emotions, relationships, and in-law advice for over a decade.
