There is a saying, “Youth is too short; you need to find someone you love. Life is too long; you need to find someone who loves you.” So, for women, is it better to have “someone I love” or “someone who loves me”? In my view, if both cannot genuinely love each other, it is more prudent, and perhaps even happier, to marry someone who loves me. After all, life is too long, and living with a man who does not love you can be a torment that feels worse than death. This kind of suffering is like being pierced by ten thousand arrows, like being executed by a thousand cuts—it is a kind of heartache that leaves one feeling powerless and helpless.
“You can never wake a person who is pretending to be asleep,” just as you can never touch a heart that does not love you. If a man does not love you from the start, no matter how well you behave or how humble you become, he will never love you because love is a fleeting moment. If there was no love at first sight, there will be no spark of love in the days to come. Marrying a man who does not love you means a woman will never experience the warmth of being treated gently, will not feel the intimacy between husband and wife, and will not find happiness from deep within her heart. How painful it would be to drag out a lifetime in such torment!
When it comes to love, women often hold a stubbornness, or perhaps it should be called obsession. Even when they clearly know he does not love them, they still wish to bind that person to their side, stating, “You may not love me, but you must belong to me alone.” Whether it is Bai Xue who is crazily in love in “Long Time No See” or Liu Shufen in “Forever Young,” they both destroy themselves by marrying a man they love too much but who does not love them back, affecting others in the process. That is because they lack confidence and even fear that one day they may not be able to hold onto this man. If a woman becomes this way, what meaning does her life have?
Men are the most ruthless animals in the world, yet they are also the most affectionate. They are cold and indifferent toward women they do not love, but they are passionate and gentle toward the women they deeply love. This is why they become nostalgic over old flames while being deeply in love with new partners; in short, you never exist in their hearts. Perhaps this is because men are born to be fickle—the more easily obtainable a person is, the less they are inclined to cherish them, even feeling disgusted. Until one day, they decisively leave you, not because you are not good enough, but because they have never seen your worth. Their lack of love cannot fulfill your deep love; such a marriage is destined to be a terrible nightmare.
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