Love is a beautiful deception, and we are all willing accomplices.
“Truth or lies, who can really distinguish between them?” The important thing is whether that person truly loves you.” This popular saying on the internet resonates with many people’s feelings. In this complicated world, we always yearn for sincere affection, yet we must face various lies in life.
Women often tell men: “You can do anything, but you absolutely must not lie to me, understood?” Men usually nod in agreement, but studies have found that, on average, one in ten interactions between partners involves some deception. In relationships, both men and women have, to varying degrees, lied to each other.
Especially men, it is said that they tell 88,000 lies in their lifetime, which is double that of women. Some lies are meant to deliberately conceal their wrongdoings, while others are benign, aimed at making their loved ones happy.
Whether you are a couple or married, you will inevitably encounter lies between you; there’s no need to take it too seriously. Women sometimes need to learn to play dumb a bit. For example, when men tell the following three types of lies, don’t expose them, because these are things he says out of love for you.
01: “I’m fine, don’t worry.”
When a man is with you, he feels a natural sense of responsibility and protective instinct, hoping to take care of you and wishing every day you spend together is joyful.
But life is never smooth sailing; unfortunate things are bound to happen. At such times, the man who loves you will want to rush in front and shield you from the storm.
When these things happen to him, he chooses to hide them from you or downplay them. Even if you find out, he will comfort you by saying, “I’m fine, don’t worry.”
He loves you, so he doesn’t want you to be concerned or upset for him.
Li Xiaofang and her husband Zhao Ming settled in Beijing. To provide a better living environment for their child, two years ago they bit the bullet and bought a house, causing a sudden increase in their living pressure.
Fortunately, Li Xiaofang has a good position at her company, and Zhao Ming’s entrepreneurial venture is going reasonably well, providing a stable income, so although it’s tough, they can manage household expenses.
However, later the pandemic suddenly swept across the country, and Zhao Ming’s import and export company lost its supply and sales channels. Now, he has to support a company of dozens of people, and the goods in the warehouse cannot be shipped out, leaving him frantic.
No matter how overwhelmed he is outside, when he returns home, Zhao Ming always brings up some light topics to chat with Li Xiaofang. One evening, they sat on the sofa, and Zhao Ming pretended to be relaxed, saying: “A new intern started at the company today; he’s really interesting. Guess what?”
Li Xiaofang looked at the exhaustion in her husband’s eyes and felt a pang in her heart, but still cooperatively asked, “What happened?”
Zhao Ming smiled and said, “He actually doesn’t know how to use a fax machine; he thought it was a printer!”
Li Xiaofang also laughed, but her smile carried a hint of heartache. Working in sales herself, she naturally understood how difficult her husband’s situation was, so she suggested, “Ming, if the company isn’t doing well, we can sell the car and the house. After we get through this tough time, we can buy them back.”
Zhao Ming waved his hands repeatedly and said, “It’s fine, it’s not as bad as you think.”
