Anxiety is a psychological state that we often encounter in our lives. When anxiety starts to seriously affect our emotional relationships or lives, facing it directly or avoiding it will lead to different outcomes.
Ordinary anxiety can gradually return to normal with self-regulation and release. Some people find it difficult to extricate themselves from it because they cannot find suitable ways to adjust.
In their search for happiness, girls face various discordant factors such as VGM, aloofness, and fear. The most prevalent among these is VGM. The issue that has the farthest-reaching impact is aloofness.
Girls are generally more reserved when it comes to interaction and not good at expressing themselves. When they experience aloofness, it is not easy to detect. Misunderstanding it as a normal situation, it only begins to impact the harmony of married life after many years, prompting them to seek solutions.
“Qing, 29 years old, has been with her boyfriend for 4 years. Currently, her confusion mainly stems from finding it difficult to generate interest in interaction.
This lack of inner turbulence is something she also finds difficult to understand. It always feels like a coordinated effort, making it hard for her to take the initiative. Her boyfriend has also grown weary of this, which further causes her to start rejecting and disliking such behavior.”
Upon further investigation, it was found that Qing had experienced severe anxiety 2 years ago and was taking medication for it. The side effects of the medication directly suppressed her desires.
The lack of understanding from her boyfriend and blaming her for not being proactive led to disharmony between them. The absence of care and support from love created a significant psychological bias regarding her understanding of love and her current situation. This also exacerbated the problem.
Qing’s situation is quite complex, with the interplay of medication and psychological effects. Currently, she has stopped using the medication for a year, and its effects can gradually be eliminated. The psychological barriers now become the key issue that needs to be addressed in the next phase.
Psychological guidance and adjustments will be conducted through various aspects, including increasing intimacy, reminiscing about beautiful past connections, enhancing SEX communication with her partner, and reshaping her understanding of SEX, to gradually return to a normal state.
The lack of proactivity, apart from the influence of cognition, also requires a comprehensive evaluation of whether aloofness exists. Such psychogenic issues may ultimately lead to disharmony between both parties. This should not be overlooked!
I am Tian Yazhu, a sex therapist from **, advocating for my happy career as a sex therapist, providing customized one-on-one consultations to professionally address various issues in partner relationships!
