Love is about reciprocity.
The more you care about someone, the more you fear losing them, and the more likely you are to become insecure.
In a romantic relationship, if the other person is indifferent to your feelings, to your presence and absence, then they are not truly in love with you.
A man who loves you will fear not being good enough and disappointing you.
To keep you by his side for a long time, he will strive to change himself and treat you well.
Therefore, a man who doesn’t want to lose you will give you these two things!
01 Give you tolerance and concessions
Love is not a competition, it’s not about winning or losing, where both end up getting hurt.
In relationships, understanding and compromise during conflicts are what make love last.
To love someone is to put aside one’s stubbornness and rough edges for them.
Prior to meeting Ying Caier, Chen Xiaochun was aloof and hard to approach, with a bad temper that no one dared to deal with.
After meeting Ying Caier, he became as gentle as a lamb.
Both had strong tempers, but it was their love that made them willingly become accommodating and understanding towards each other’s tempers and whims.
Because they love you, they are willing to compromise for you.
In “Story of Yanxi Palace,” the Emperor loves Wei Yingluo so much that he abandons his royal demeanor to give her massages, tolerates her quirks and acts of petulance.
He loves her, fears losing her, and hence is willingly accommodating and doesn’t argue with her.
Two people love each other to live happily together for a long time.
It’s not a boxing match where one must submit; nor a debate where one has to win arguments, leaving the other speechless.
Remember: The more a man fears losing you, the more willing he is to give in to you, no matter how strong his temper, he will soften towards you.
Of course, besides one person being appropriately accommodating and compromising, the other person should also know when to stop, understand their love, accept their gestures, and appreciate the pampering they receive.
02 Give you happiness and dependence
Women don’t dislike men being stronger, but they dislike an authoritarian father figure.
Don’t love a woman with your own assumed greatness; love her with what she considers great.
“I want an apple, but you give me a box of pears.”
“I’m unhappy, and you find me difficult to please, showing ingratitude.”
Such a man doesn’t love you; he only loves the sense of achievement he gets from you and impressing himself.
What truly matters is that your loved one sees it as good, not just what you think is good.
A man who truly loves you will change himself to suit your preferences; he will strive to improve himself according to your requests.
He will love what you love and give you what you desire.
A man who doesn’t want to lose you will work hard to overcome any obstacles between you for the sake of your happiness together.
Be it familial pressures, financial matters, or other practical factors.
He will work diligently, striving for success to ensure your happiness.
He will become stable, responsive, never neglecting you, providing you with reliance and security.
He will do his best to improve your quality of life, rather than offering empty promises every day.
The more a man fears losing you, the more rational he becomes, fulfilling his promises and making himself capable of providing you with reliance and happiness.
He will not complain about your materialism, reality, or practicality, nor be resentful.
When he says he loves you, it’s because you are the way you are. There’s no reason for him to turn around and attack you due to his incompetence.
If you don’t love him, you can leave. Don’t try to brainwash a woman to cover up your own lack of integrity and incompetence in rage.
Women should love a man who is already good and willing to become better for you.
Never seek someone who is flawed in every way, hoping to change him with love. The stakes are too high, and you can’t afford to lose.
A man who truly loves you will be extremely afraid of losing you, wanting to possess you and keep you forever.
However, remember, a man who doesn’t want to lose you will choose to improve himself, to a point where you can’t leave him.
Instead of attacking you, brainwashing you, or dragging you into misery.
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