By Xia Mo
01. Preface
The human heart is like autumn leaves, gradually turning yellow.
When a person is constantly hurt, neglected, and feels no warmth, the heart becomes cold.
In marriage, when a woman is disappointed in a man, falls out of love, she no longer has expectations of him.
Whether she is helpless or facing a crisis, she won’t rely on him anymore, but learn to solve problems on her own.
When a wife is disappointed and cold towards her husband, no longer loves him: a behavior.
02. No Longer Expecting, Self-Reliance
My neighbor’s elder brother works in sales and is rarely at home throughout the year.
His wife spends a lot of time at home taking care of the children, which is not easy. When she faces emergencies or is too busy, she leaves the children at our place for a few hours for help.
Over the years, she has been taking care of the children by herself, handling their medical needs and participating in various activities. She also runs a small business to earn money.
Once, when she found water leaking in her house, she took charge of supervising the workers. I couldn’t help but remind her that her husband could assist with such matters, and he could be of great help.
She just smiled and said she was used to it.
Now, as the children have grown up, her business is doing well, and she has already agreed to divorce her husband, making further communication unnecessary.
In “The Ordinary World,” Lu Yao wrote: “Life cannot wait for others to arrange it; one must strive and fight for it.”
Women, when they miss you, you are not there; when they need you, you are busy with other things. They call you, message you, but you don’t respond.
Perhaps, for a long time, she feels sad and upset.
But as time goes by, she becomes numb and hopeless, no longer expecting anything from you. The feelings between two people have completely vanished.
She can handle everything at home on her own and no longer initiates contact with you.
Or she may prefer to seek help from professionals or friends, having no expectations of you, no longer considering you the most important person in her life.
03. Her Concerns, No Longer Matters
When a woman loves you, she keeps everything about you in her heart.
She cares about you, your feelings, worries about your stress, and work hardships.
She will be by your side, taking care of you and providing warmth when you are sick.
But when she stops loving you, she no longer cares for you or considers your feelings.
She no longer pays attention to your life, who you are with, or how much you earn each month.
Maybe she once hoped that you would treat her well, love her, and build a future together.
However, over time, she realizes that her love is unrequited, that you don’t truly love her, and she stops giving her heart to you.
Hearing about you or meeting you doesn’t intrigue her anymore, and there are no emotional fluctuations.
Whether you are succeeding or failing in your career, leading a disciplined life or succumbing to bad habits, she no longer cares.
I read online: “Only when your mind is calm can you hear your inner voice, and only with a clear mind can you see the true nature of all things. What you can’t bear to let go of often isn’t worth cherishing, and what you pursue vehemently isn’t necessarily what life needs.”
I read online: “Only when your mind is calm can you hear your inner voice, and only with a clear mind can you see the true nature of all things. What you can’t bear to let go of often isn’t worth cherishing, and what you pursue vehemently isn’t necessarily what life needs.”
Indeed.
When a woman stops loving, she withdraws her love and focuses it on herself. From then on, she only loves herself.
04. Deciding to Part Ways, Hard to Impress
In “Secret Romance,” Tu Xiaoning and Lu Sijing have been in a relationship for years.
Lu Sijing left abruptly to study abroad for better opportunities, leaving Tu Xiaoning behind without a word.
She thought he was going to propose, but he chose to leave instead.
When Lu Sijing returned hoping to win back Tu Xiaoning, she remained unaffected.
Although Lu Sijing sent her flowers, made romantic gestures, and helped her in many ways, she was not moved.
Instead, she saw Lu Sijing’s presence as a nuisance in her life.
When a woman no longer loves you, she won’t be easily appeased or impressed by you.
Previously, a few sweet words and a hug could calm her down when she was angry.
Later, no matter how much you try, she won’t be swayed, no longer attracted to you.
Her heart has been deeply hurt, and she no longer has the courage to trust him again.
Even if a man realizes his mistakes, regrets, and begs her to stay, she remains indifferent.
05. Conclusion
I read online: “Unexpected departures plant seeds of departure in the hearts of those who left for something unexpected.”
I read online: “Unexpected departures plant seeds of departure in the hearts of those who left for something unexpected.”
Men, don’t assume that women will love you forever and wait for your return.
Don’t think that she will accept your indifference and neglect without resistance.
When she becomes completely indifferent towards you, she will leave.
Learn to cherish what you have before it’s too late to regret.
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Author: Xia Mo, a rising emotional mentor, psychologist, with a fan base of over 1 billion online, focusing on emotional issues, relationships, mother-in-law dilemmas for over a decade.
