A reader once confided in me, saying that during the process of dating her boyfriend, she often felt unloved, and her boyfriend always claimed to be busy and tired.
At times, she also felt his indifference, as she was always the one initiating their dates, and he would often reject her citing overtime work or being tired due to business trips.
While they were together, she thought her boyfriend was very responsible, but now that they are not together, she understands he had his reasons.
Actually, in a relationship, you can tell whether a man loves you from certain details.
If you want to know if a man truly loves you, pay attention to the following:
Will he speak sweet words to you.
Whether a person loves you or not, the words of love they speak are the best proof. Sweet words never go out of style no matter the time.
Many people think that sweet words are used to cheer up girls, but this is just a saying. In fact, sweet words are a great way of expression that make girls feel valued.
A man who does not love you will always seem perfunctory when speaking affectionate words, either just to please you or because he does not love you at all. However, many times, a man may not speak sweet words to a woman not because he lacks the ability but because he no longer has feelings for her.
Because he simply does not love you, he will not know how to make you happy. If a man is willing to express his love and sincerity for you through actions, that is true love. If a man just speaks casually, then you should not get too close to him.
Does he have patience with you.
I remember in “Love Defense War,” there was a female guest who said she thought her boyfriend had a good temper as he never got angry even when she did, but she realized she was not that cherished.
Because she believed that men in relationships lack patience, when they argue, he would think you are overreacting or being unreasonable, leading to him having emotions towards you.
In fact, many times men also experience this in relationships.
If a man loves you in a relationship, he will have patience with you.
During your conversations, he will discuss interesting topics with you instead of feeling unsure of what to talk about.
When issues arise in your conversations, he will patiently seek solutions rather than finding it bothersome.
Although his words may be concise, they reflect his effort towards you.
Another detail that shows if a man has patience with you is how he behaves during arguments.
When you argue, he will patiently listen to you until you finish speaking without brushing you off or impatiently interrupting you.
Such a man definitely loves you.
Will he initiate contact with you.
Some say that loving someone makes you unable to resist contacting them.
But in reality, many people do not contact out of love but out of lack of love.
If he has time, he will actively contact you.
When you receive his messages, you will eagerly reply as he understands you must be curious about what he is doing and how you are.
If a man rarely initiates contact with you or only remembers you occasionally, then he does not truly love you. If he frequently messages you, asking what you are doing, if you miss him, then he definitely loves you.
When a man no longer has feelings for a woman, he becomes indifferent and stops taking the initiative to contact her.
