After entering puberty, as a girl, there are always a few days of stomach pain every month. I want to remind all male friends that when you see your girlfriend or wife frowning in pain, please don’t say “drink more hot water” anymore. What should a clever boyfriend do?
Before discussing some tips, let’s first understand why girls have menstruation while boys do not. Primarily, it’s because boys do not have a uterus and ovaries, and menstruation is the result of the interaction between the ovaries and the uterus. When a girl enters puberty, her ovaries gradually mature, and the secretion of estrogen increases gradually, leading to ovulation every month.
Under the influence of the ovaries, the uterus gradually undergoes changes, and the endometrium will periodically thicken. If the egg and sperm do not combine during ovulation, the endometrium will shed and bleed, resulting in menstruation. Some girls humorously refer to themselves as a “monster” that bleeds every month.
As for why girls experience menstrual cramps, it may be primary or secondary. Not all girls experience stomach pain during menstruation – some may feel heavy, lower back pain, abdominal heaviness, while others may have no symptoms at all.
However, for most women, menstrual cramps are quite normal. How painful is menstruation? According to descriptions from friends who go through the toughest times during menstruation, it feels like a fist punching your abdomen every few seconds, and like a string pulling your guts. The feeling of occasional throbbing in the lower abdomen can be unsettling, and this sensation may last for three to four days. Some girls experience more severe symptoms and may not be able to get out of bed, vomit, have severe pain, feeling like they are reborn after every menstrual cycle.
Many male friends find it hard to see their girlfriends or wives in discomfort during their menstrual cycle. However, it’s difficult to empathize with the exact discomfort they feel. Some male companions express concern by saying “drink more hot water,” which might only agitate their wives more. In fact, women don’t really like hearing this advice during their period because they find it dismissive. It’s like adding fuel to an already irritable mood, possibly igniting a flame. Actions speak louder than words.
Generally, during your girlfriend’s or wife’s menstrual period, if a clever boyfriend acts in the following ways, it can calm her inexplicable irritation and strengthen the relationship between the two.
Firstly, do not quarrel with your girlfriend during her period. Irritability is common during this time, mainly due to hormonal imbalances. Some women are usually very gentle but become easily irritable during their period. If you notice your girlfriend being irritable, try to go along with it as much as possible. Otherwise, anger may lead to irregular periods, reduced menstrual flow, or even amenorrhea, posing risks to her health.
Secondly, prepare items such as heat pads, brown sugar water, pain relievers, etc. (Many girls are afraid of the side effects of pain relievers, but appropriate use is generally safe; just make sure not to overuse them.) When you pass these items to your girlfriend, even if they don’t say it, they will be very moved inside. It’s much more effective than just saying “drink more hot water.” For friends in a long-distance relationship, you can consider using food delivery services or asking for help.
Lastly, I want to remind everyone that although boyfriends or husbands should take care of their emotional well-being, women should not become overly dramatic or unreasonable during their period. It’s essential for women to control their emotions; otherwise, losing a boyfriend over mood swings may not be worth it.
