A person’s life, fortune and misfortune are not predetermined, and no one can guarantee that their future will always be smooth sailing.
When men and women get married, they select a life partner based on their own criteria. Women are more emotional in marriage, often willing to give everything for love, sometimes losing themselves in the process.
In reality, men tend to be more practical than women, often prioritizing their own interests and making choices based on self-benefit.
In a life together, if unfortunate illness strikes, one spouse will inevitably have to be prepared to take care of the other.
The burden of life combined with medical expenses can be overwhelming, and at such times, the choices made by men and women truly differ. Many women choose to care for their sick husbands, carrying the weight of the family on their fragile shoulders.
On the other hand, many men choose to escape or divorce when faced with a sick wife, leaving a chilling effect.
Do men despise their sick wives? What are they thinking? Let’s look at the responses from these men:
“My wife didn’t take proper postpartum care after childbirth, coupled with the hardships she endured when she was young, her body became weak, catching colds and fevers easily, and she also has hypertension and diabetes, needing daily medication.”
“I criticize her for not taking care of herself, I am the one reminding her to take her medicine, at first it was really frustrating, but then I got used to it.”
“I criticize her for not being able to control her diet, always eating forbidden foods recommended by the doctor when I’m not at home, causing constant worry about her well-being. What if something happens to her?”
“My wife was diagnosed with breast cancer, after she fell ill, my mother knew she wouldn’t recover, and she always interfered, making me feel overwhelmed trying to deal with the two women, I am in pain, I know my wife is suffering more.”
“We spent over 200,000 yuan on her treatment, and when my mother found out, she asked my in-laws for money, saying they should share some of the medical expenses for their daughter.”
“My in-laws, being true farmers, still managed to give 50,000 yuan, but I refused to accept it in front of my mother, just to show her that her actions were wrong, but it was of no use.”
“They even secretly left the money at my home when they left, I felt ashamed.”
“I am busy with work and rarely at home, my mother causes trouble at home all the time, I see my wife’s eyes swollen often, she must have cried secretly.”
“Eventually, she brought up the idea of divorce herself, she said she couldn’t stand my mother anymore, and she knew I loved her, but she didn’t want to continue a marriage that wasn’t approved by my mother.”
“I had no choice but to agree to the divorce, I secretly gave her money, but she didn’t accept it, saying she would borrow from me if necessary.”
“After the divorce, my mother urged me to find another partner, but I didn’t listen, I still love my ex-wife, and I fear hurting another woman.”
“My wife has a rare disease, the treatment costs are exorbitant, and it’s prone to relapse, I’m afraid.”
“The first time she fell ill, it scared my whole family to death, after she recovered, the medications she needed were all imported and not covered by insurance, our family savings, combined with her parents’, were quickly depleted, we even accrued nearly 100,000 yuan in debt.”
“Our home is devoid of joy and laughter, immersed in sadness every day, living unhappily.”
“When she relapsed again, I hesitated to pay at the hospital, she saw my hesitation and cried.”
“I didn’t want to sell our only remaining house, my parents also disagreed, stating her illness was a bottomless pit, urging me to think it over.”
“Unable to withstand the pressure, I fled, avoided paying, and stopped visiting her, leaving her parents to look after her.”
“After her second discharge, she came back and asked for a divorce, and I agreed.”
“My wife can’t conceive, is that a disease?”
“For years after we got married, we couldn’t have children. On medical examination, she was diagnosed with ovarian issues, unable to conceive.”
“This was a blow to us, she mentioned divorce.”
“I didn’t want to divorce her, we fell in love freely, she was the one I liked, and we spent all these years together.”
“We never had children, nor did we consider adopting.”
“Now, we envy families with children, but have accepted our fate.”
Each person’s perspective on this matter varies.
Many men disappoint their sick wives, causing women to lose hope, believing that the person they thought they could rely on is unreliable.
It’s observed that older couples with deep feelings exhibit a stark contrast in their attitude towards difficulties compared to younger men. They confront the reality, while younger men tend to evade it.
When facing challenges, it is hoped that all couples can stand together, tackle problems collectively, and live happily ever after.
Today’s topic: What should men do when their wives are ill? Feel free to leave your comments.
