Introduction: The double-sided mirror of marriage, reflecting the truth of the soul
Mr. Yang Jiang once said: “A man who is poor in heart cannot sustain a marriage; a foolishly filial man cannot see his wife’s grievances; a selfish man will only ever love himself.” This is not only a deep analysis of certain phenomena in marriage but also a soul-searching inquiry into human weaknesses. In the hall of love and marriage, we often yearn to find a spiritual home, yet often, unintentionally, encounter the other side of human nature.
The plight of being poor in heart: the barrenness of love, how can it speak of a family
“Being poor in heart” is the barrenness of the spiritual world, a reflection of the lack of passion and responsibility in life. In marriage, such men are like travelers in a desert, unable to provide emotional nourishment to their partners nor be a solid support in times of adversity. Their inner world is narrow and barren, unable to accommodate understanding, respect, and mutual growth with their partners. In their hands, marriage becomes an endless cycle of demands and complaints, ultimately leading the hearts of both parties further apart.
The tragedy of foolish filial piety: blind obedience obscures the eyes of love
“Foolish filial piety” is blind obedience, a serious misunderstanding of role positioning in family relationships. These men equate filial piety with unconditional obedience to parents, neglecting the significance of marriage as an independent nuclear family. They cannot see their wife’s tears and exhaustion, nor hear her inner calls and grievances, as in their minds, the opinions of parents always outweigh everything. However, true filial piety should be built upon understanding, communication, and balance, rather than at the expense of disregarding the feelings of one’s partner.
The abyss of selfishness: the desert of love, a self-dug grave
“Selfishness” is the most lethal poison in love and marriage. Selfish men have only themselves in their world, and the balance of love always tilts towards their side. They demand unconditional dedication and sacrifice from their partners but are stingy in giving the same care and response. In such relationships, the wife becomes an unceasing “spinning top,” and the marriage becomes her solo drama. In the end, the desert of love consumes all tenderness and hope, leaving behind only endless loneliness and despair.
Conclusion: Awakening and growth, jointly building the home of love
Facing the “poverty of heart,” “foolish filial piety,” and “selfishness” in marriage, we should not choose silence and compromise but bravely step forward, seeking change and growth. A true marriage is the mutual approach and fusion of two souls, a journey of advancing together, sharing storms. Only when we learn to face the challenges in marriage with greater maturity and rationality can we, through mutual understanding, respect, and support, jointly build a home filled with love and warmth. Remember, love is never about one-sided dedication and sacrifice but about mutual growth and guardianship.
