A survey conducted by American sexologists shows that more than 60% of people believe their most unforgettable sexual experiences are often spontaneous and occur naturally. This view aligns with the ancient Chinese perspective that sex should be natural and stem from inner desire. Several key principles for maintaining sexual health include:
**Like a duet, perfect harmony lies in the mutual understanding and synchronization of both partners. Research indicates that high-quality sexual experiences are often not the result of prior planning, but rather arise from the natural resonance between partners. Ancient Chinese wisdom also emphasized that sexual acts should follow the laws of nature and are a genuine expression of emotions.
The quality of sexual life is far more important than quantity, a widely recognized viewpoint. As people age, while the frequency of sexual activity may decrease, many express that their sexual satisfaction actually improves. Western sexology research shows that the frequency of sexual life does not directly determine its quality. Sometimes, for women over thirty, having sex once a week may be of higher quality than having multiple encounters each night in their twenties.
The ancient Chinese Taoist teachings on the art of the bedroom emphasize the importance of moderation in sexual life, believing that excessive indulgence can accelerate aging and lead to issues such as weakness in the waist and legs, dizziness, memory decline, and physical fatigue. This aligns with modern medical understanding that excessive sexual activity may lead to reduced immunity, hormonal imbalances, and slowed metabolism.
Regarding the frequency of sexual life across different age groups, traditional wisdom proposes a flexible principle: “As long as one does not feel tired, it is suitable.” Using the metaphor of the art of the bedroom, from youth to old age, the appropriate frequency of sexual activity gradually decreases with age: in one’s twenties, physical strength is robust, and recovery may only take a few hours; around thirty, it can happen every night; after forty, it may need to be spaced a few days apart; at fifty, about once every half month; and by sixty, greater emphasis should be placed on conserving energy, with sexual activity becoming like a New Year’s ritual, sufficient once a year.
