Mr. Qian Zhongshu once wrote in “Fortress Besieged”: “Marriage is a fortress. Those outside want to get in, while those inside want to get out.”
In real life, we all desire a happy and fulfilling marriage, especially for women, who long to meet the right person to hold hands with and grow old together. But can marriage truly escape the fortress as described by Mr. Qian Zhongshu?
In fact, marriage life can completely break through the so-called fortress, with women playing a crucial role. Women are like the stabilizing force in a family; having a good wife at home brings increasing blessings.
“Behind every successful man is a great woman.” You should know that a smart wife who knows how to treat her man in these four ways will make him willing to give his all for you!
01
Show men enough care and consideration
English writer Shakespeare once said: “Love is not seen with the eyes but felt with the heart.”
In marriage, care and consideration need to be felt from the heart. Only when we truly pay attention to the needs and feelings of each other can we provide genuine care and consideration.
Men face various pressures and challenges while striving outside. As a wife, you should provide your husband with enough care and consideration, letting him feel the warmth and happiness of home.
When your husband comes home from work, you can prepare a cup of hot tea and a delicious snack for him, then gently say, “Darling, you’ve worked hard! Have some food and rest for a while!” Such words not only show your care and consideration but also make him cherish this cozy home even more.
02
Be independent from men, steadfast in being yourself
Marriage is like a boat, with both spouses being the helmsmen. Only when both work together harmoniously can this marital ship sail smoothly.
A truly smart wife in marriage not only has her own life and career but also stays firm in being herself and not letting others infringe on her.
This self-assured attitude ensures that they don’t lose themselves in marriage due to changes in men.
Such women in marriage don’t become appendages to men but maintain their psychological independence, radiating their unique charm and attracting their husbands’ love and attention.
03
Praise men often
In marriage, many women tend to be irritable, express dissatisfaction towards men, and even say words that undermine men’s confidence or mock them.
Such women not only fail to turn men into what they desire but also push men further away.
On the other hand, smart women are different; they understand that, instead of criticism, men need encouragement. They frequently compliment men for always coming home on time, helping with household chores, or treating them well.
With such praise, men unknowingly end up being molded into someone who satisfies these women more.
04
Progress together with men, be open to change
As the initial passion of love fades in marriage, many women may think that life has become dull and only need to lead a stable life in the future.
After all, most women simply want to be a modest woman, peacefully finish their lives without seeking immense wealth for men, nor have to doll up; living a light and smooth life without any disturbances.
But you should know, no man wants his woman to remain unchanging forever, possess the same hairstyles for years, wear the same clothes, which can make them feel exhausted.
Hence, women should change their hairstyles occasionally, undergo some weight loss or exercise as a surprise, try a different clothing style from before, or even make some emotional changes like showing some playfulness when you are usually serious, or occasionally being cute, which will amaze and impress him.
05
Emotional reflection
In this world, there are no perfect men, nor perfect marriages!
Women in marriage should indeed be wiser. The happiness you wish to have requires your efforts, but this pursuit doesn’t solely rely on demanding changes in men.
You must know that sometimes trying to change men can have the opposite effect. However, if you treat men in these four ways, even without asking for change, they will become the person you like, providing you with the happiness you desire in your heart!
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